Is anyone here one of the "only ones" on your team? Do you feel included, or do you feel different?

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This is the first time I’m not the only one on my team I’ve got a gay co worker and it’s refreshing

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As an out bisexual man I've never met any other out bi men in any company I've worked for. Plenty of gay guys, some lesbians, and a few bi women though (which tallies with the survey statistics about how "out" people are). Even in the company with board-funded lgbtq+ network, an out trans woman in my office who'd helped them adjust their handbook/policies to be more trans-friendly and non-binary people in the same company (that I didn't know, from other group companies).. Still no out bi men anywhere in any jobs (but I bet more closeted ones/people who could identify as bi but say monosexual labels instead).

Generally felt included, except by the biphobic guy in the lgbtqia+ network who didn't believe me the one time we talked about lgbtq+ things and claimed I didn't know what "real" discrimination was without even knowing much about me.

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I am the only out gay person in the entire legal department - I kind of like being the token gay person, I would be angry and territorial if another gay person was hired.

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Fierce!

I’m the only one in leadership. I don’t think any of my direct reports are queer, but have gay team members on staff.

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We just hired a college grad who is gay. I haven't talked to him. But I've been the only one for 10+ years in our group of 50. Yes I'm included, my partner has been invited to all parties, weddings, etc. I'm not invited on the group pleasure trips that some of the guys take though.

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Statistically we’re always going to be a minority. HR policies cover sexual orientation as discrimination, medical insurance covers same sex partners, same sex partners can be invited to +1 events, not really sure how else you define included outside of non work related social cliques?

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I tend to be the only one among my direct division but join our business resource group where I can connect with other community members.

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What do you mean “included” in here?

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