I’m so single I don’t know why. I’ve tried dating apps, played social sports, done hobbies that interest me, and even stopped looking. After all that, I still haven’t found someone #dyingalone

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Either you are picky about how hot people are or you’re just not very hot yourself so you’re on the other end of the spectrum

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C1, that's not helpful lol.

OP, we need more details. What was your experience like on the dating apps? Which ones did you use? How many people did you talk to? What were those conversations like?

And are you gay...? Were the sports/hobbies you participated in take place in gay groups?

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@OP In my experience, unless you're in a rural area, it should be possible to get dates from Tinder. It takes a lot of strategy though. Some notes:

1) Getting conversations started was also a problem I ran into. Definitely don't let a match go by without starting a conversation. On my last Tinder go, I initiated roughly 100% of conversations with matches, one of which was with my now-bf.

2) You should also be careful with the type of person you swipe right on. I stopped swiping right on people with only one pic or a profile that read "Ask me if you want to know more," because it was extremely difficult to have conversations based on their shallow profiles. I like to start conversations based on their pictures, profile description, job/school, and Facebook likes. Mutual interests were really the best way for me to get something substantive going, and so I wouldn't swipe right unless I knew what my conversation starter would be

3) Fill out your own profile so the other person has things to ask you about. Let each picture you post show a different side of you and be sure to mention your top interests in your About section. I would also highly recommend "liking" your interests on Facebook.

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Imo, meeting people the "natural" way is super laborious and can take forever. Continue meeting as many people as you can and making friends through what you enjoy doing (even if you wouldn't necessarily want to date those individuals), and make friends with the friends of those friends. *Eventually* you'll meet people you're compatible with, it can just take a while

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OP, you are too young, don’t rush things. Enjoy being single and your friends. To put things in perspective for you, I’m 46 now and met my partner when I was 37. Before that the longest relationship I had lasted 1 year and I spent more time single than in a relationship.

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OP, it’s time to meet new friends then! Friends introduce you to other people and that increases your chances of meeting more prospects. The consulting life style doesn’t help with dating so focus on friends first because they will be there for you when the relationship falls apart. As for finding suitors, be patient... you will know when you find the one.

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OP, your post made my heart hurt a little... I remember what you're feeling. It isn't fun being the only single guy in a group of couples, especially in your mid 20s. You have so much time ahead of you, though, even if it doesn't feel that way, and the best thing you can do is get to know yourself better. I'm 38 and I've had two serious relationships - I met both men during times when I decided to embrace singlehood and focus on myself. This won't bring you a lot of comfort, but sometimes the best surprises come when you aren't looking so hard for them.

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OP, what’s your age?

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Try bumble. When you start a conversation, lead with a gif. It has the highest response rate.

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@D2, sometimes I really don’t mind being single, but it does get lonely. Most of my close friends are in serious relationship, so I’m often forced to do things alone and think about my own future. I used to be able to do more things with them like traveling or just hanging out in general, but now it feels like everyone prioritizes their relationship which is fair. It just sucks for me :(

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@D2 I’m mostly friends with straight people which is prob why I don’t meet new gay friends? But yeah I’m trying really hard to be patient but 4 years without anything substantial is just tiring

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Stats? I’m cute and 26

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Same here, but I haven’t tried all the things you did.

D1, I’ve tried tinder and hinge. I match with a few people, but the issue I’ve been having is that most (maybe 90% of the people I match with) don’t want to initiate or start the conversation. So, I try to sometimes, but the conversation doesn’t last long.

Yeah, I primarily joined social gay leagues. I’ve made friends from there for sure which is nice. I haven’t gone on dates because of it, though.

D2, I just turned 24.

I prob would date OP. Too bad I’m away from the US. Sorry about my comment I was just being sassy in the am ;)

@D1, I completely agree with you but my problem is that I haven’t really felt genuine connections with anyone from dating apps to go on dates with.

1. I can be really shy if I don’t know the person even if I think I’m pretty fun around my friends. And I almost feel like I want the guy to take the lead. Most conversations I start just end up in one word responses or no responses at all. That’s why I feel less confident initiating.

3. Great points. I should also have a profile description but never really know what to put there.

@D1 also, I kind of gave up meeting people in person. It’s really hard finding someone who I’m compatible with. So, recently, I haven’t tried as hard.

@C1 your comment probably has some truth to it

@PwC1 aww, I’m sorry i didn’t mean to make to feel that way. But honestly i feel a lot better after reading these comments :) I’ll be okay.

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