Is it a pipe dream to be 35 and child-less and want to date men particularly black men that are the same…..? I keep on thinking to myself at this age it’s damn near unreasonable but I have bm drama PTSD 🥲

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Don’t give up. Don’t put out that energy. It’s possible. But, I would say to stick with your preferences but be open to how your love will manifest in your life.

My husband is everything I wanted in a package I never expected.

He is out there for you.

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Maybe depends where you live? My baby sis is in her 20s and dating a 35+ man (😪) who has no children but wants them eventually…

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Hmmm I see what you mean. She did have to get through a lot of bum boys her age to meet him, and she’s still not sure lol. You probably haven’t found him yet. And the pool is admittedly narrow, BM or not.

If it’s a hard no due to your BM drama of the past and it still hasn’t worked out, it may be something you revisit internally. I recently met up with a friend of a friend and she said she found her person who she’s been dating for 2 years. BUT he has kids! They met on hinge I believe. She’s in her mid 30s too.

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No, your person is out there!

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Yes, it's a pipe dream if you're focused only on black men. The numbers just aren't there. Expand your search to include men of other ethnicities and you vastly increase your chances.

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I don't think it's unrealistic. The majority of the guys (educated and blue collar) that I dated in my 20s and early 30s did not have children. It's more challenging when you hit your mid/late 30s and early 40s.

If he's educated and has never been married, there's a higher probability that he doesn't have kids.

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Keep ur energy focused on knowing he’s out there and coming to you. Just make sure you healing up so when u get him u don’t fumble. Gotta get rid of that PTSD sis 💜

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Sounds like you know what you want, so go after it. Don’t get discouraged by people not aligned with you.

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Lucky you 😫 sometimes i dream about being in those shoes again.

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This is my dream as well! 🖤

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