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That approach will yield this result and worse over time. Sharing nothing about your life ensures that no one can trust or vouch for you. At this level, success is less about the work you do and more about the relationships you make. You don’t have to share everything, but the real art is sharing just enough so people think they know you without sharing everything. Sharing nothing will ultimately limit how far you can advance in your career.
This sucks, and it shouldn’t be the case. But you have to diplomatically talk to your boss about it. Explain what travel is important to you. And that people don’t mean any harm but you’ve got bills
To pay too, including alimony. You aren’t complaining but informing. You can always go to your boss and ask for advice on these issues (even if they are the perpetrator). Asking for advice or help makes them more likely to feel obligated to you and help you out.
I keep my personal life totally secret from my co workers. They don’t know whether I’m married, single, dating etc. Have learned to be a master of deflection when they try to pry.
(Continued….) First of all, it’s not true. I’m actually the one paying my ex. And second of all, my marital status is completely irrelevant. Have any experienced any thing similar? I cannot wrap my head around why it should even be an issue.
My marital status isn’t really a topic of conversation and while people probably know I’m married with kids it’s background enough that I believe/hope it doesn’t influence any decision making around my role and activities. You have to have the conversation with your boss and flat out say that your family life is managed and should not be any more considered for work functional activities than the fact that you are responsible for child/spousal support should be considered (you need to make the point you aren’t “being taken care of”). I assume you do have support for the kids as much as possible when you are not available and your ex-spouse is part of that (otherwise, what are you supporting him for??)
Of course there will be times you need to modify your work activities due to family responsibilities - you don’t need to go into detail why. Just “that weekend is not possible for me, but I can be available evenings the previous week” or whatever. Don’t bring up the family if you don’t have to.
You shouldn’t have to be so clandestine about family matters - but it seems that at your company it’s required if you done want to be held back. You might want to see what other opportunities are in the horizon so you can enjoy working in a more professional environment.
I agree, I share a good amount. I just draw the line at who my boo is/ whether I have one. I hear you though. It’s tough.
I’m general pretty private about my personal life, but those I’m close to or work with directly are aware that I went through a very traumatic divorce right after COVID ended. They were all incredible supportive and understanding. I am finding that the bad behavior is with the men in other offices.