Just turned 30, and I feel like I was in a box for yrs and I just want to escape for a moment. All the success seems to not make me happy. Does anyone else fell the same ?

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I understand how you feel, I thought being a senior would make me happy but I’m miserable and wish I was in your shoes as a manager/senior manager.

However, I’ve learnt to find happiness in the things In things that have nothing to do with work or money. I put 7 really poor kids through secondary/high school, seeing them gives me joy, I opened a small shop for one of my friends in Nigeria so he can make money, that makes me happy.

All I’m saying is that you’ve been blessed, be a blessing to others and maybe that may give you happiness. Delete your social media accounts and focus on your life.

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Go find what makes you happy. I’m not saying to leave the firm, but more so go explore your other interest. Take up a cooking class, hang out with family, volunteer, get a pet, take vacations, go see the world, and etc. Life is what you make so take control of your life!

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The success does not make me happy because I have no one to share it with. I’m 28 and single and get tired of coming home to an empty house. I really really want to get married and have children, but that doesn’t seem to be happening anytime soon.

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Can you elaborate?

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Although I was able to accomplished all my dreams (Senior Manager now, own a nice condo, drive nice car, just started my own consulting firm in Africa, brought my mom is America were she stays now, etc). Coming for Africa when I compare with my peers or some while kids from my school I think I made it pretty well. But I still feel not happy and I keep searching for happiness. Any else in the same shoes ?

Where in Africa are you from? My best friend felt the same until he met the one. I am sorry you are going through this. I am proud of what you accomplished. I am also from Africa and even though am just a senior , I still feel proud of where I am. I am a single mom of an amazing 5 year old and he makes me very very happy which definitely makes a huge difference.

I don’t have a solution , just encouragements ...


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