My fiancé’s parents drove 2 hours to our venue and asked for a tour yesterday lol. I just found out today. Is that strange? Am I overthinking?

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Without either of your knowledge? Strange af unless they’re paying for it

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Hey it’d be helpful if they were 😂

I’m on the other end because I’ve been in this situation. They found the venue wasn’t large enough to hold all of their friends.

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This is something my fiancé’s parents would do. It’s more endearing than concerning

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Yeah I was thinking that it's something my parents would do lol. When I was wedding planning they wanted me to take them up to see the venue (they *did* help pay for it). So they told me about it, but I could see a world in which they just went there without letting me know because they're a little strange like that lol. It's more out of curiosity and care than anything nefarious

definitely odd but nothing wrong with it i don’t think as long as they didn’t interfere with your contract or decisions! they’re just excited about their child’s wedding and want to feel included im guessing. not something to make a big deal out of

They likely were just curious and didn't say because they didn't want you to think you needed to meer them or worry about why they were going. If its 2 hrsfor them, it will be for amy of their friends and they may want to be able to sell it. They may also be such complusive planners, the didn't want week of tobe their first visit. Put eyes on what else was in the area. As long as they didn't come back and call asking you to reconsider, it's a benign thing to do.

Remember they are likely helping with the rehearsal dinner, so may have been scoping out the whole area.

Maybe they're considering ponying up some cash and were just curious..?

It is both strange and not strange.

Strange that they did this without your knowledge.

Not strange in that they probably are more traditional, and want to be more involved in your wedding planning (which traditionally parents were, and would certainly tour venues as part of it). So it might be a nice gesture (if you get along with them) to invite them along to some wedding planning activities in the future.

You’re the best judge as to whether they were being overly intrusive or politely curious (and not wanting to ask you directly to be involved).

Strange how exactly

Now that time has passed, did you get any feedback from them about the venue?

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