So my fiancé and I are having a microwedding in Rocky Mountain National Park next year, and we’re working with an elopement planner.
She sent over a sample ceremony (intro, sweet poems + passages to be read, and example vows), and we read through it last night. I was reading it out loud while my fiancé made dinner, and it just hit me that this is really happening. I’m just really happy that I found someone who is willing to take a vow to spend his life with me and I’m so excited for that day :)

How would you feel going on vacation with friends who want to bring their kid along too?

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

I might get a lot of shade for this but tbh I never understood the hype of big fours. I feel I would have just been a slave there. Why would anyone trade their time and time with family for slave hours and money that you could make having your own thing or somewhere else? Everybody sounds miserable at big fours. What’s ur take?

Anyone whose spouse just seems to hate them? Welcome to my world.

My wife surprised me last night for my 30th bday (which was last week) with a get together with my closest friends I have known since middle school. Most of them live out of state with kids and somehow it all worked out. Feeling really loved.

Is bfs account Contract get extended or they simply release and we get bach to parent (cts), for another project is complete bgv happening or they just handle from their side?

Completely irrelevant still imp for me

Pls advise if someone can

After 8 yrs of relationship he is saying parents are not agree cannot marry....till yesterday he was like I'll never leave you..now he wants to break everything

I can't imager my life without him..what should I do

No one can feel my pain..pls don't make fun of me..

I'd like to have kids one day..

I don't think I could stand them any longer than that though.

Best Christmas things to do with a two-year-old?

Anyone have any recommendations for a family law attorney in DC for divorce?

How do you deal with trying to live and establish a life of your own but also making sure to grateful and aware of the sacrifices your family has made to get you to where you are now?

My husband repeatedly claims domestic abuse falsely, and it’s getting too much. Now that I have kids he has started saying this to them and they say it back to me. I think he does this because he wants custody of kids or an upper hand when it comes to finances if we end up divorcing. Any ideas on how to handle this

My GF and I are dating for 2.5 yrs , She met an office colleague (he has a GF) recently who she initiated a friendship with. I feel that they interact a lot and I'm a little worried of her getting too close to him. A day ago she asked him for lunch and they were out for almost 4-5 hrs. When I expressed how I felt she keeps saying there's nothing going on. I feel that when start to get emotionally close to some other guy than SO then it's not a good sign in relationship. Am I overthinking? contd.

This bowl has been quiet and I see partners commenting on odd posts around fishbowl so I figure you need more fodder: partners, did any of you have parents that travelled as much as you do?

Getting over heartbreak and having a full time job is torture lol. My boyfriend and I just broke up after almost a year of being together. It was such a beautiful relationship but ultimately he just didn’t love me. I love him so much. My mind knows that I deserve reciprocal love and I’m worthy, but I feel physically ill. My body hurts, my stomach is in knots, my head hurts. How is it that I have to mend a broken heart but also meet my billable hours lmao

Spending a weekend with my fiancé’s family out of town and quite literally my future FIL burps out loud 10x a day with no shame and his mom is a narcissistic monster in law just have no clue how these bizarre ppl created such a lovely person in my fiancé. Don’t need advice, just want to bitch. Can anyone relate??

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

How do you manage the constant school cancellations? Do I need a nanny in addition to daycare?

My ex and I have trouble remaining broken up. We’ve broken up over 9 times (9 times!). It’s dysfunctional, but we generally love being around each other and it feels comfortable. What to do? (Cont)

Best/worst experiences as a law clerk?

Bonus structures for your firms and numbers?

Hi Fishes,
I've been offered for Engineering expert position at Novartis India. I've received offer letter 2 weeks back and my DOJ is updated to Mid December. I told the HR that my current company's last working day is on mid January and resend the offer letter with mid Jan as my DOJ. But they told that they can send the revised offer letter 3 weeks before the joining date.
Is this normal process? Has anyone gone through similar experience?

Good morning / Hello! Just a reminder that you don't have to put up with anyone's bullshit today. 🤙 Stick up for yourself and your workload (professionally and with examples of needed.) Don’t just say “yes”, to extra work. Decline that meeting that someone sends today for 5pm. Calibrate people’s expectations. It’s okay to not turn your camera on. And be sure to take a minimum of 30min and get outside if you can. Handle your biz, and make it a great Friday. 💯 💻📲📊📧

Hi all, when will Fidelity investments pay salary , is it last day of the month? Where and when we can see the payslips. Am new to the company and not sure how to clarify these , please clarify.

Any good resume writers/designers. Bought a service through LinkedIn once and it ended up horribly

ACDs in tech, what are your salary ranges if you live outside of SF + what city are you in? I’m in SF (big tech co) and given covid, been thinking about leaving but curious what numbers I would be looking at in Seattle vs LA or other cities with tech companies. Thank you!

What is the average bonus and hike rate?
Team: Model Validation (Credit Risk)

What are your thoughts on pay discrepancies based on family structure? Ex. Two people do the same job but one is paid more or given a larger bonus “because they have kids and you live alone” or “because their family is struggling”. Is that an ethical factor if both employees do the same job at the same pace, quality, etc?

What is salary range in MongoDB for International Sales Manager based out in India?

I'm a fresh grad and I thought this would be my dream job... I became the 3rd team member in this location and the regional team leader helped me understand and learned a lot... Until about 4 months down the line, he announced to quit. It's about half of year now since I started to feel ever so alone, hopeless and helpless in the team. The actual work is within my capability, but takes me ages to learn coz the overall team is not so collaborative and lacks communication... Maybe I need anew job

Worst migraine ever. Still got it since Wednesday night

Firm announced flexible come and go as you see fit approach to coming back to office. Partner I work for said I need to be in office 4-5 days a week anyway. Thoughts?

Please help - My fiancé’s side of the family is huge and we’re having a really tough time finding anything close to our budget for 200-250 people. Has anyone found any venues in the Catskills/CT/MA/even PA that don’t require their own food/bev? Also general reassurance is great too 😞

Is a hair and makeup trial really necessary? It seems like such a waste of money.

Fun question: what are the best and the worst wedding trends you’ve seen?

For those who have already had their weddings, what advice do you have? Anything you could change?

We decided to do a photo session before the wedding for the two of us and family. The photographer and the location were amazing but the makeup was terrible, and because I was low on time, I couldn't fix it before the photos. The makeup artist make me look yellow! Idk if there's anything that could be done at this point, but feeling so disappointed :(

Looking for solid bridesmaid dress recommendations with a good color, design, and size range!

Guest list stress 😖😖 how many did y’all invite vs how many came?!

Should I invite fewer people to a destination wedding or will people just naturally decline?

Can I do a mother of bride dress appointment the same time after my bride fitting? It'll just be my mom coming to the appointment. Or should I do hers right after I finish my appointment?

Thoughts on uneven bridal parties? I would have 5 vs my fiancé having 3 people.

Anyone else’s mom driving them crazy about mother of the bride dresses? Wedding is a little over a year out 😂 Any store recommendations for MOB dresses?

If I got married on a Sunday, could I use the flowers from the wedding the night before? (Anything they were going to leave behind like hanging installations) Seems like a waste for that decor to be trashed and an opportunity to pay it forward. Has anyone done this?

Tux budget NYC?

Help- my SIL showed me two dresses she rented for my shower, and I think they are super bridal/not very appropriate to wear as a guest or bridesmaid. I have asked others and they agree. I feel like my own outfit, a simple jumpsuit, pales in comparison to how over the top these dresses are. What can I say or do? I feel really down but also don’t want to start WW3 by saying something to her. I feel like I now need to rush to buy a new outfit.

I just booked my venue for October 2022. I am very excited but want to lose weight to be comfortable on my wedding day. I put on some weight during the pandemic and I am about 40lbs over my comfort weight. Anyone follow a plan that worked for them?

Thoughts on kindly asking your bridesmaids to please not give a gift? I am over the moon excited that my bridesmaids will be celebrating me and traveling for the wedding and bachelorette. I really do not want a gift from them at the wedding. Full disclosure, my fiancé and I have great paying jobs and my bridesmaids are grad students, artists, and teachers. How would you frame this? Even if they were millionaires I would not want a gift, but I don’t want it taken the wrong way.

Any tips on making a small wedding feel intimate and special versus tiny and boring?

Has anyone else had fears of marrying the wrong person or making a mistake? Like you are mostly sure, but still get nervous?

Questions for the brides - did you accompany your fiancé when he went to pick out suiting/tuxes? I’m not sure if I should go with him or not.