So my fiancé and I are having a microwedding in Rocky Mountain National Park next year, and we’re working with an elopement planner.
She sent over a sample ceremony (intro, sweet poems + passages to be read, and example vows), and we read through it last night. I was reading it out loud while my fiancé made dinner, and it just hit me that this is really happening. I’m just really happy that I found someone who is willing to take a vow to spend his life with me and I’m so excited for that day :)

Taking family trip to Chicago mid-September. Any family friendly recs good for an 18 month toddler (things to do, non fancy lunch spots, etc)? Also thinking residence inn downtown for space. Others?

Welcome to the Single (Never Married) Teachers bowl. I'm sure the struggle is real out here and sometimes it's good just to have someone who's in a similar situation to talk to about our experiences.

How do you correct bad aspects in your character that you unconsciously got from your parents?

A long post: seeking some perspective. My husband of 2 years that I’ve been in a relationship with for more than 8 years just woke up one day and told me that he’s unhappy in our relationship. I’m devastated because he’s never expressed anything like this in the 8 years. He’s been super supportive and loving, even when we were in a long distance relationship. He supported my career and dreams and this just doesn’t make sense. We have gotten a counselor but things aren’t getting better. Comment>

I lie to my girlfriend every time we make plans — I always tell her to be ready an hour before I want her to be and she’s still normally running 15-30 minutes late

I’m my partners only associate and I went on parental leave two weeks ago. I feel horrible for leaving him to handle our cases alone, but am trying to focus on my wife and new baby. That being said, should I still offer to handle minor matters that come in to ease the workload off my boss? He’s been super cool during my entire leave, so I don’t feel pressured to one bit.

I am generally uncomfortable when I’m around my mother-in-law’s husband.

While he is overall a decent guy, his anger issues, yelling at his wife for the slightest issue, and insulting nature makes me uncomfortable and triggers my own anger due to his blatant disrespect for just about everyone around him.

My mother-in-law says he’s worked on things, but it’s been 10 years of this and I’m not sure I want such behavior around my wife and our kids since we’re trying to conceive soon (cont).

Any moms on here that absolutely love their company and feel 100% supported?

How open are mental health discussions in your families? Whether it be talking about your struggles or suggesting therapy to family members? Anyone done it successfully and mind sharing ideas here?

I hate going home for Thanksgiving because I always feel like I haven't succeeded enough yet and my family has seen me fail a lot

Anyone with anxious attachment tendencies? Going through a breakup and I keep thinking about how I pushed him away and then am down on myself, replaying memories in my mind. At the end of the day, I think we were a bad match from the beginning and misaligned, but so hard not to beat myself over my anxious attachment during my relationship

Unsure if my bf and I are incompatible or if I’m not compromising enough. How do you know the difference? He has so many great qualities that I love but also lacks some qualities that I would like to have but idk if I would be giving up on someone that is great for little things.

Looking for advice. My wife and I moved into a nice 4 bedroom. I would like to have one room for my office (fully remote consultant). We don’t have kids yet. She wants 3 kids and all 3 have their own room. I want 2 and would like if they are the same gender to share a room. (Atleast before teenagers). I grew up sharing a room and it was great. So did her dad and uncle. Obviously I think we shouldn’t be discussing this until it’s relevant when we have kids but she won’t drop it.

How have you combated your fear of rejection? I fixate on such small things as when my friends, for example, reject plans I have made. This definitely makes me more averse to putting myself out there and makes me ruminate on past perceived failures, which are clearly not good for personal growth

Dad passed away 2 months ago. I traveled to India and stayed for 2 months, dealt with significant red tape to close his cards, loans, transfer pensions, etc. A succession certificate is WIP for one of his accounts, so mom decided to stay back until it’s done. Mom has always refused to hire a maid, loves to hoard, cleans superficially, the house is always a mess when I visit and all my India trips are spent cleaning including this one. I’ve fought with her a ton over the last two months as well..

Sometimes I feel like I am a drone that just works all the time and I have no friends.

Moving to London in June for a permanent role. What's a good area to live in, friends? Looking for a 2 bedroom, 2 bathroom place ideally.

Best self-care tips for dealing with loneliness/sadness this time of year? This is my first Christmas without my mom and it just feels like nothing will ever be the same again 😭. If you’ve lost a parent can you give me advice on getting through the holidays? Being a parentalish figure to my students is both healing and heartbreaking.

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

35F divorced with a kid. I think I will never get remarried or in a serious relationship again. Lots of men don't like dating women with children. At my age either the guys are past their prime, divorced/ing and have to provide half their income to their first wife. Many with kids live on the same street as their ex wives so they can be close to their child. I'm not comfortable dating guys like that. On the flip side there are the ones that were never married, which by this age cont

Hey guys,

Does anyone currently live in an all electric Aparment? If so, do you feel like it’s expensive or cost effective?
I’m moving in to a 2 bedroom apartment with my wife and the tenant is responsible for electricity. The heating and the stove are both electric so wanted to get an idea on how the electric bill is month to month.

Hi Guys , we husband wife makes 50 LPA . Now, my company is giving me onsite to Europe , do you think it is worth taking it ?

Anyone knows if Singapore trash collection separates waste into recyclables ? If not, how can we do it ourselves in sg?
I live in a condo FYI.

In TCS,After completing onboarding process and getting ur employee Id ,what's the process to get tagged into any project.Can you please share your experience?Can we reject any project if we don't find it not aligned to our expected work ?

Hi , can someone help me with the resignation process in cgi? Do we jus need to drop a mail to manager or any request needs to be raised in the portal? And if it is just mail, then what happens if manager is on long leave for 2 weeks?

Any plans of regular or hybrid mandatory return to office in Sun Life Gurgaon office.
Please let me know.

What's your controversial Houston opinion?

I need a job😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

I’m helping a teacher take over her website that’s hosted by FlyWheel and suspect is a template. A designer charges maintenance, but it could really use a do-over. Advice on taking back control?

Planning to exit tech firms as a mid to senior level roles. What are some possible sources I can reach out at to make this happen?

...First date ideas during a pandemic?

Trying to get a 45 y/o sibling in to consulting (was an entrepreneur prior in the restaurant industry). No college degree but willing to bust his but to learn. Books/online courses recommended pls

Fishes need your help on decision making, of course it's a regular post,, got offer from accenture for team lead level 9 with fixed ctc of 17.45 LPA + 1.75 joining bonus + 27% variable pay. Is it ok to join to that level and CTC ??

YOE: 6.8
SKILL: SSIS
CTC: 13 LPA Fixed + 10% variable pay

Accenture folks!
Can I submit the Time report in the next fortnight if I missed current fortnight (1st -15th sep).
Will there be any consequences?
I have recently joined Accenture (DOJ- 1st Sept) and I am yet to receive the WBSe details for time report submission.

Please help as I continuously receiving automated mails to submit the time report.

Thanks in advance!!

Where can I get f&f settlement doc ? On the former employee portal i only see status as completed.

Guest list stress 😖😖 how many did y’all invite vs how many came?!

If I got married on a Sunday, could I use the flowers from the wedding the night before? (Anything they were going to leave behind like hanging installations) Seems like a waste for that decor to be trashed and an opportunity to pay it forward. Has anyone done this?

Thoughts on kindly asking your bridesmaids to please not give a gift? I am over the moon excited that my bridesmaids will be celebrating me and traveling for the wedding and bachelorette. I really do not want a gift from them at the wedding. Full disclosure, my fiancé and I have great paying jobs and my bridesmaids are grad students, artists, and teachers. How would you frame this? Even if they were millionaires I would not want a gift, but I don’t want it taken the wrong way.

Help- my FBIL is refusing to rent a tux for our wedding because he already owns one. It is a different tuxedo. We would like everyone in the same tux, which I don’t think is crazy to ask for? It’s not a financial issue and it’s not some sort of weird style. 11 other men will be in the rental, it will be obviously different. We’re paying a lot for formal pictures and while this isn’t a tragedy by any means, it is upsetting to my fiancé and I, especially as we ALWAYS go with everyone else’s flow.

Is a hair and makeup trial really necessary? It seems like such a waste of money.

My stepmom threw me a very elaborate bridal shower. My stepsister pitched in and also did a lot of work for it. Bridesmaids helped but didn’t do a ton. What, if anything should I do for my stepmom and stepsister as a showing of gratitude? I don’t want to spend a lot of $$ but definitely want to act quickly and thoughtfully.

We decided to do a photo session before the wedding for the two of us and family. The photographer and the location were amazing but the makeup was terrible, and because I was low on time, I couldn't fix it before the photos. The makeup artist make me look yellow! Idk if there's anything that could be done at this point, but feeling so disappointed :(

Any vendor recommendations for Philadelphia? We have our venue, now need florals, photographer, videographer, etc. thank you!

I’m excited for my wedding but it’s almost 9 months away and I started planning it over a year ago. However, whenever I’m around friends/family it’s the only thing people want to talk to me about. It’s constant and generally there’s not many updates to give & I’d just rather talk about other things. I work full time & I’m in school right now so I’m stressed about those things and I don’t know how to communicate that I’d just rather not talk about the wedding without sounding ungrateful/happy

Are you paying for bridesmaid hair and make-up? Was a little sticker shocked $200 per person before gratuity, just adds up quickly with that many people😬 Not requiring it but wanted to offer it if they want to be more glammed up, but now seeing online that’s it’s considered quite rude to not cover it for them? Maybe just cover one and they can do the other if they want? Don’t want to be rude if it’s expected but also don’t want to blow our budget… any perspective on the “norm” appreciated!

Budget question! How much are you estimating spending per guest? This includes food/alcohol/venue, etc

I thought I set some boundaries with my wedding since my fiancé and I are paying for everything. Now I’m getting more comments about why we didn’t invite some long lost cousin or family member… I don’t want to go bridezilla on people but I’m starting to see how it can happen 😂

Anyone else’s hours tank right before their wedding? How was it received? I am constantly interrupted by last minute wedding things 😅

For those who have already had their weddings, what advice do you have? Anything you could change?

Questions for the brides - did you accompany your fiancé when he went to pick out suiting/tuxes? I’m not sure if I should go with him or not.

Any tips on making a small wedding feel intimate and special versus tiny and boring?

Does anyone have a recommendation for a good premarital counselor in NYC or NJ?

Should I invite fewer people to a destination wedding or will people just naturally decline?

Please help - My fiancé’s side of the family is huge and we’re having a really tough time finding anything close to our budget for 200-250 people. Has anyone found any venues in the Catskills/CT/MA/even PA that don’t require their own food/bev? Also general reassurance is great too 😞