My hurt break hurt me so much that I’ve just been doing enough to stay afloat at work. Now I’m being passed up for promotion. I feel silly.

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sorry to hear that op. not much different than what others might say but this too shall pass. feel free to dm me if you’d like to talk more!

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Sorry dude! I’ve gotten fired from 2 jobs because I couldn’t get over mine. Take the time to process. There will be other promotions.

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Sorry you’re going through this! Find things outside of your job that give you joy or comfort. What about joining a book club or volunteering?

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Honestly, people should understand everyone goes through trials and tribulations. Life can be rough. I hope things get better for you.

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