I hate that I still want to hear from him. I just have no idea what I want him to say or what I want to say. I feel like if I get anywhere near him he’ll be able to sense my pain. Are we sure the no contact rule is only 21 days? I feel like I need 21 months.

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It’s been almost a year and I want to see him, even though he’s been with other women. Take 21 months if you need to - no contact rules are set by you.

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Also going through this right now. It’s so sooooooo painful to not be in contact but when we talked, I realized it made me sad because I was thinking about him. And we need to focus on ourselves 😔

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I haven’t done no contact yet. I’ve taken 7 days off from responding and haven’t seen him in 6 weeks. Progress, nonetheless, right?

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