My partner of 5 years ended our relationship last night. I’m shattered and feel absolutely sick, and I know the healing isn’t going to be easy. We were on the verge of an engagement and I was ready to spend the rest of my life with him.

I don’t know how to approach work during this time. I think I can get by, but I’m definitely not 100%. Should I talk to my boss about it? My team is close-knit and comfortable around each other, but I don’t know if it’s “appropriate.” What would you do?

Hi all, I am new to cognizant with 3 yoe. Got selected in Verizon account. If anyone knows about this account can u pls comment how the work life balance will be? and the pressure in the project and working Timings

What are peoples opinions of EY FAAS group? How’s the work? How’s the pay? How the WLB? Interviewing for a Senior position.

For a Product designer, out of Thoughtworks and McKinsey which has a better work-life balance and learning opportunities?


Thoughtworks
McKinsey & Company

Anyone have an emotionally abusive parent and tips with how to handle/cope?

Any single parents in here? If so, and you want support and understanding from other single parents please join the new “single-parents” bowl. Especially as busy season is here.

The leason learnt by some of high salary negotiatiors in one point of time is never always chasing high salary and stuck in toxic company and suffer.
Please also give priority to company brand and wlb

Amerisourcebergen doesn't care about its employees. We have no mental health awareness. Leadership only promotes people who kiss ass the most qho have no managerial experience and pass people who actually have experience in a manager role. Leadership never helps you with anything. Managers write you up for no reason amd threaton your job constantly. Ive have leasherip threaten my job while on FMLA and write me up for taking too much time off

Definitely going to be a noobie question!

My client's medical provider asked for his PIP ledger: how do I get that? Just send a LOR to the carrier and ask?

Typical day for Credit risk business analyst BA4?
How is the work life? Management? Leadership? Office transport, canteen?

Hi All ,
Can anyone please suggest which one to choose from cognizant, Coforge, Magic edtech for noida location on Java stack for better WLB and long term stability.

Thanks!

Any tips for traveling with a baby? Will be flying with a 4 month old in a few months. Any advice would be appreciated!

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Feel like sharing advice? Which info would have changed your life if you only had known back then?

Any kind of advice is accepted 😉

How is EXL HEALTH (SCIO) Chennai In term of WLB and job security, Pay for 4 years experience

Hi fishes

How is work life balance for Manager role and what is the salary band for Manager position?

Finally had a breakdown over infertility this AM and trying to pull myself together for Zoom. My tests are fine, but husband can’t deliver during my fertile window. I feel so hopeless with every month that goes by, and he doesn’t have any sense of urgency when HE is the one who wants kids more than I do. Just needed to vent.

Hi! Have any here gone the natural cycle IVF route? What was your experience like? Did you have success in growing your family this way? Would you recommend it to others?

Curious what % of partners/MDs have spouses who also work. And regardless of non/working spouse, what do you do to feel a work/family balance?

IBM vs. Accenture for SAP Functional?
In terms of
1. Good Work
2. Long Term Career
3. New Learnings
4. WLB
5. Job Security

Stopped a fwb situation. But staying away is so hard. 😔

Going back to work next month. Have a full time nanny but feel like even that isnt enough. I work all sorts of timezones. Europe has my morning, Asia has my evening. Nanny 9-5? 7-3? 10-6? No clue what will work best and don’t want to be inconsistent with her. Any advice on the return?

What’s does “fill the gap” mean??

Does PWC India consider counter offer or drop the candidature if they cannot match the CTC?

Any tips on ramping up on tone and voice for writers?

Can a company renege an offer after a bad reference? Will they?

Consultants at KPMG! Do you have to be at the firm for a certain amount of time to qualify for a flexible work arrangement?

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Any Female Fishes in Bay Area?

Writing on behalf of my BF: is 28 too old to switch careers? Honest answers only!

I’m 29, female, is it still a good time to move from audit to FDD? Probably having kid in the next two years.

Hello all,

How is production support role in _VOIS and how about Deputy manager role? Heard that in VOIS everyone will be pushed to manager role.
How is WLB for production support in VOIS

Please share how much is shift allowance and over time allowance.

What is the percentage of hike you get on getting promoted from senior consultant to principal consultant in pwc india. Will they do a market correction of your salary is low.

I’ve worked in Management Consulting for around 5 years. Been looking for exit ops working closer to content/releases at music labels (WMG, SME, UMG) for the past year but it’s so hard to get my foot in the door without significant past music experience 😭 Anyone have any advice, or potential contacts?

I am looking to connect with any HR of Natwest. Can anyone help?

Who here has jumped firms a lot? How many firms and what year are you? I'm worried about long term my resume looking like I'm a mega flight risk. I have solid reasons for each jump but just tired of jumping and worried. It's hard to find that long term firm.

Can anyone pls help me in RRP ??

What’s everyone doing in this heat??

Is there any good training institute which offers placement to become a data analyst/business intelligence analyst? I wanna switch my job.

So do higher ups (managers/directors/etc) in FFD talk to each other about the progress of seniors and associates in a similar manner to how the staff are ranked during audit roundtables??

Any suggestions for how to keep my mind and body busy? My job is painfully slow and not challenging and I’ve started to re read old texts and have OD’d on Matthew Hussey videos. What are practical things I can start to help turn this next chapter? Besides job hunting! I feel like I need to throw myself into something worthwhile that I feel good about! I just don’t have inspiration or motivation right now. I feel flat.

It’s such an unsettling feeling to want to hear from someone and not want to at the same time. I’m shocked I haven’t thrown my phone against a wall. My mind wants a Rage Room but my body is exhausted and just wants sleep.

I just need some Brugal rum, Aventura or Romeo Santos songs on repeat all night…

Anyone with anxious attachment tendencies? Going through a breakup and I keep thinking about how I pushed him away and then am down on myself, replaying memories in my mind. At the end of the day, I think we were a bad match from the beginning and misaligned, but so hard not to beat myself over my anxious attachment during my relationship

I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄

Why do we always tell people “Be the best version of yourself before starting a relationship?”
I feel this is wrong…first, if you’re someone who constantly wants to be better, this doesn’t work. Also, what happens when you’re going through things and you’re not the best version? What happens is…the going gets tough and then one person leaves the other.

It’s been 5 weeks and I haven’t gone a day or night without crying and feeling haunted by them. I can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t produce quality work, can’t find joy in anything I previously loved. This is the worst physical and psychological pain I’ve ever experienced.

It’s week 5 for me of the breakup and even though I had a full and fun weekend with friends and people I love, I woke up today so so sad because I wanted to text my ex. I just feel overall so defeated and exhausted from sadness and unmotivated at work :(

Has anyone dealt with coming to terms with an emotionally abusive relationship? I struggle to admit this (because more drastic examples come to mind), but my therapist mentioned that things like yelling/throwing things/blocking me from leaving the room are also abusive traits my ex demonstrated. It makes me feel alienated from myself — like “how could I have allowed myself to be treated like that?”. Also feeling ashamed to tell anyone

As much as I know I need to go through this. Today - I just felt so lonely. I was clingy and needy to strangers and just want to make some sort of physical connection with a human.

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

I hate that I still want to hear from him. I just have no idea what I want him to say or what I want to say. I feel like if I get anywhere near him he’ll be able to sense my pain. Are we sure the no contact rule is only 21 days? I feel like I need 21 months.

Do you tell your boss you’re going through a breakup? I’m phoning it in and obviously going to be camera off for awhile.

TLDR: Getting over your ex of 2.5 years ghosting you after they said they wanted to reconnect.

I was dating someone for about 2.5 years and then we broke up because of COVID and the long distance was making it too difficult to continue. The break up must’ve been like a 4-5 minute FaceTime because I was very distraught. After we broke up, she started seeing someone else but I was heartbroken and it’s taken me over a year to really get over everything and process those feelings. (Cont.)

The biggest thing I keep running and running around my head- after 8 months, why did he drop me? When he texted ending it l….it wasn’t me, like we weren’t us, his words were from someone else, like I didn’t matter. It doesn’t matter how much it wasn’t about me, how he chose to end it, and that’s what crushed me. Who I thought I knew was wrong. I want to know how close he was to loving me.

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

I hope he’s in as much pain as I am. The way he ended it was so cold and selfish and unlike how he was any other time with me. It was like a personality switch. I’ve never been so wrong about someone. I’m not sure how to process or recover from that part of it.

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.