TLDR: Getting over your ex of 2.5 years ghosting you after they said they wanted to reconnect.

I was dating someone for about 2.5 years and then we broke up because of COVID and the long distance was making it too difficult to continue. The break up must’ve been like a 4-5 minute FaceTime because I was very distraught. After we broke up, she started seeing someone else but I was heartbroken and it’s taken me over a year to really get over everything and process those feelings. (Cont.)

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Due to work I was in the same city as her so we decided to meet for closure. I told her I was afraid to reconnect because it took me a long time to get over her last time. She acknowledged it. The night went great, we talked and even held hands and cuddled for a bit. We went our separate ways at the train station, we texted for a bit and then eventually she just stopped replying. I haven’t texted her again because I get the hint. I guess it just feels like getting hurt by her a second time and it absolutely hurts a ton man.

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I’ve learned that you never get closure you want. Cut her off and don’t talk to her again.

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Sorry to hear. Make sure you remove yourself from things that connect her to you. For example, review your social media to remove her accounts or anyone associated closely with her that you don’t communicate with.

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Why did you meet with her when you were in her city? Who initiated the communication and meeting? I’m confused by your post.

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I think she took advantage of you when you saw her again. The reality is she had moved on and you wanted closure and to feel close to her. I hope you got some of that!

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Women can be witches…

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