3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

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OP, I am so sorry. Heartbreak is so painful. I’m going through a breakup myself after 2.5 years. Infidelity brings a whole different level of hurt to the separation. The best advice I’ve gotten is to continue to pour into myself. There will be good days and bad days. The people above are right—healing isn’t linear. On the tough days, lean into those feelings, maybe journal (I always find that helpful), and then try to do something for yourself that brings you joy. Remember that these feelings are temporary. Two years from now you will be so proud of all that you’ve overcome. Sending virtual hugs—you got this 💗

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Thank you so much. I’m so sorry you’re going through this as well!

So sorry that happened to you! I don’t think heartbreak is an on and off switch but I do think its feelings evolve and change, and become duller over time as positive ones come in. Take time to mope and do nothing and when you’re ready make big or small plans solo or with friends/family. For me, friends helped more than family. I’m in week 4 and taking it one day at a time still.

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Thank you so much! Sorry you are going through this as well 💕

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I’m on the same boat. 6 yr relationship, healing is not linear. Give yourself a lot of grace. The most important thing I learned is to not block those feelings, let them run their courses and sit there and allow yourself to feel every bit of it. I realized that unless you do that, they will keep popping back in bits and pieces. Pain will leave you once it’s done teaching you. Love and light my friend 🤍

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I’m sorry you’re going through this as well. I agree though, hopefully all this pain and time spent working on myself pays off!

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Time heals all wounds. 3 years later, and im doing better without the cheating SOB 😊. Just stay busy, girl. Have yourself a good, deep ugly cry. It’s ok to be sad. And then shake it off, because F him! And then back to normal tomorrow!

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Thank you! You’re absolutely right!

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My heart breaks for you because I can't imagine how one recovers from that.

What I normally do is, possibly listen to some music. Playlists about heartbreak. I also read somewhere that men normally try to get into something new very quickly while women normally take a while to heal. But once they are completely healed, they don't look back. Men on the other hand, will think back to that point after a few months.

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