I ended my relationship of 6 years about 3 months ago bc he said he might regret not having kids later down the line. we were always on the fence but I’m leaning towards no. It hurts so much having to walk away from an otherwise perfect relationship. Wish this was easier…

I'm an engineer and I love building things but based on what I've seen about Gen Z, I think I'm going to raise my kids in a less modern style. No TV, no internet, at least until a certain age.

My parents are scared that something will happen to me if I join the military. How did you guys handle this?

Is a post-PhD gap year to travel and be reminded of what life is like a bad idea?

How long do you cry after breakup? I cried for one night, and felt weird day after. Now I feel like I am way better, maybe it was because I know it had to happen (even if I was the one who got broken up with) and probably I see that more than hurt of relationship ending

Father who’s living in my home country is transferring an apartment ownership to me. Should I be worried if this is some sort of a signal, maybe about his health? Also what do I need yo be aware of legally and financially?

Any parents here who really struggled after the arrival of a new baby? It was a planned pregnancy, but after 2 years of this new life, I feel trapped and I feel like this is not the life that I wanted. I know I'll probably get a lot of mean comments here. Looking for anyone who might have experienced this to share their stories/outcomes/what you did. Thanks.

So my partner and I been dating for 5 months. But he's a man of literally very few words. What can I do to connect with him on deeper level, or any suggestions of questions I should ask him? To get know him better or to open up

My family is concerned about me becoming an officer. I could see why, but what are some things you've told your families to put them a bit more at ease about the field you're in?

Any expats here face pushback from your family for moving to a different country? They always try to shame me for moving so far away around the holidays...

I am sure that I am not alone - Both Husband and wife working, Got a young child, who can not go to Childcare. Your boss expects you to deliver things, and team need you at work, at home your wife need your support si that she can attend meetings and get those task done... As a parent how are you feeling mentally and emotionally ??? Are you Frustrated or Angry with government messaging and managing expectations.
How are you feeling overall ? Would be interesting to know how you feel.

I’m 27 and think I’m starting to resent my girlfriend that I’ve been dating since I was 18

SO made a pretty huge promise to me a year ago and just found out he’s been going back on it behind my back for the last 6 months. It’s a relatively specific thing I don’t really want to give details on but big picture, he broke my trust and he knows it and while he’s been very apologetic, i’m really feeling quite hurt. we’ve been together for 2 years - do I end things?

I really want to move out of my parents place for social reasons etc. I still hangout with friends a lot but it’s just a hassle having to drive a hour or so to kick it with them. So my dilemma is I enjoy saving $ on rent (yes I know can’t have both) but the main reason for me moving back home is so that I can save and buy a house. On the flip side with how expensive houses are right now it’s hard to even buy. I’m in CA btw SoCal. If anyone has any suggestion of places to live for a 26 YO TIA!

I recently ended a 5 year relationship to someone I thought I was going to marry and everyday I worry I made the wrong decision. At the end of the day though our values weren’t in alignment - he became very conservative over the years (or more open about his perspectives on it).. such that he thought being gay is something not to be discussed/ encouraged, abortion should be illegal etc. And just felt an inconsistency with his level of compassion/empathy that was confusing bc it felt hot and cold

Sunday scaries, watching videos of my ex, wallowing in my own misery.

Can we show unequal rent split up between husband & wife for HRA?
Let's say we pay 20k in rent. I want to show that I pay 15k and wife can show 5k. Is this sort of break up possible without explicitly mentioning it in the rent agreement?

Hopefully this bowl thrives, I could use the perspective. Going through a divorce with two kids now.

First-gen grad students, does your family put pressure on you to succeed? It feels like our relationship is them just bugging me about my work. I’d love some advice, I miss my fam.

Can anyone refer me for Automation Testing Selenium+Java at EY?

Hey folks, I’m about a year into my new SE career and looking to continue to invest in professional skills. I’ve obviously been thrown into the fire learning the sales side of things, but what areas (technical skills, certs, books, etc.) you all would recommend I look to invest in? I’ve been looking at some beginner coding boot camps and scrum product owner certs, but interested in what you all have done to further advance your career

Need your advise: Employer filed for Manager role - PERM approved May2021 ; however, I-140 was not filed bec I was not promoted this yr. Employer wanted to restart PERM for Senior role. This means staying for that role until I get GC.
Is it better to just leave & look another sponsorship? If I transfer, is it always the future (Manager role) filed? I am thinking that it’s better to be filed as Manager in the new Employer instead of staying at the same role in my current employer. Your thoughts?

Looking for a sublease to takeover my rent for July and August. Heart of Wicker Park, 800/month. Have a roommate who is never there

Hi Members,
 I am a supply chain professional with 10 years of experience in supply chain operations and program management in e-commerce, telecom, and 3PL distribution companies. 

I immigrated to Canada 2 years ago and worked with Amazon Canada for last 1.5 years. I recently lost my job and looking for a new job opportunity. 

I have completed my CSCP and PMP certification 

I would appreciate any leads or referrals.

@Toronto @Vancouver

Any idea what's the market value of a 3 year experienced Data engineer?

Saala ye dukh khtm kahe ni hota be,

Rejection after Rejection - ab to count v yaad ni😔😔

Anyone with experience as renal transplant coordinator? If so, care to share insights? Salary range? Thanks

I got my offer letter from Capgemini. But i told my HR to update my DOJ. She did that and pushed it to releasing team. Now how many days it takes to get my updated offer letter?

Hi Capgemini New joiners,

I have accepted the offer . However, there is very small mistake in my address. Everything is correct just an additional state name is mentioned , original state name is also mentioned . Do you think it will cause an issue at time of joining or can be ignored ? Please suggest .should I highlight this to my recruiter .

I am looking to an early reply

Does anyone here run an entirely online business, selling digital products?

Hello! My co-founder and I are looking to conduct user interviews to figure out what is needed for our AI analytics software.

AI use cases:
Deliver notifications if it detects a downtrend in your revenue or orders for next month.
Adjusts your financial forecast when it detects a profit pickup, revenue or order drops
Shows list of corrective actions to fix revenue or profit drops

Please comment if interested, it should only 30 mins. We can offer a free 3 month subscription for helping.

If my SO is wearing a black dress to an event, would a navy suit clash? I can wear grey, but I like my navy option better. Any thoughts?

Take up the uk onsite or switch to another company? What do you guys advise?

Help me to get Dm access by giving 13 likes

@EY GDS why are some folks hesitated to tell their project name to others in EY GDS? Are there any risks involved?

For importing personal vehicle (declared in goods to follow) into Canada is it mandatory to register the vehicle with RIV on bringing into Canada for the first time? Any penalty if you fail to do so?

Hello everyone. I work at a Crisis Diversion Facility in Seattle as a Behavioral Health Case Manager. I make $57,000 a year. I am also a Housing Case Manager at a small for profit company based in Eastern Washington but I am a Seattle Case Manager I make $23/hr. I also work as a RBT/CBT part time in Greater Seattle making $22/hr. I really want to move to Chicago. Can anyone share their salary? All the jobs I look at in my fields are pretty low, and I understand cost of living is lower but still

He left 3 weeks ago. He’s still my first thought every morning, and I think about him for hours everyday. Normal? When does it go away?

I’m so happy this bowl exists 🥹🫶🏼

He sent me a happy birthday GIF last night. Couldn’t even be bothered to type a message. It made me happy and angry at the same time. I’m not responding.

I hate that I still want to hear from him. I just have no idea what I want him to say or what I want to say. I feel like if I get anywhere near him he’ll be able to sense my pain. Are we sure the no contact rule is only 21 days? I feel like I need 21 months.

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

I just need some Brugal rum, Aventura or Romeo Santos songs on repeat all night…

Anyone with anxious attachment tendencies? Going through a breakup and I keep thinking about how I pushed him away and then am down on myself, replaying memories in my mind. At the end of the day, I think we were a bad match from the beginning and misaligned, but so hard not to beat myself over my anxious attachment during my relationship

My partner of 5 years ended our relationship last night. I’m shattered and feel absolutely sick, and I know the healing isn’t going to be easy. We were on the verge of an engagement and I was ready to spend the rest of my life with him.

I don’t know how to approach work during this time. I think I can get by, but I’m definitely not 100%. Should I talk to my boss about it? My team is close-knit and comfortable around each other, but I don’t know if it’s “appropriate.” What would you do?

Why do we always tell people “Be the best version of yourself before starting a relationship?”
I feel this is wrong…first, if you’re someone who constantly wants to be better, this doesn’t work. Also, what happens when you’re going through things and you’re not the best version? What happens is…the going gets tough and then one person leaves the other.

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

Alright it’s been 21 days of no contact. Fastest and longest few weeks since lockdown 😞 I know it’s not an exact science but I’m curious on the statistics…who’s heard from their ex after a breakup and how long after?

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

It’s been 5 weeks and I haven’t gone a day or night without crying and feeling haunted by them. I can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t produce quality work, can’t find joy in anything I previously loved. This is the worst physical and psychological pain I’ve ever experienced.

Has anyone dealt with coming to terms with an emotionally abusive relationship? I struggle to admit this (because more drastic examples come to mind), but my therapist mentioned that things like yelling/throwing things/blocking me from leaving the room are also abusive traits my ex demonstrated. It makes me feel alienated from myself — like “how could I have allowed myself to be treated like that?”. Also feeling ashamed to tell anyone

I hope he’s in as much pain as I am. The way he ended it was so cold and selfish and unlike how he was any other time with me. It was like a personality switch. I’ve never been so wrong about someone. I’m not sure how to process or recover from that part of it.