Why do we always tell people “Be the best version of yourself before starting a relationship?”
I feel this is wrong…first, if you’re someone who constantly wants to be better, this doesn’t work. Also, what happens when you’re going through things and you’re not the best version? What happens is…the going gets tough and then one person leaves the other.

Anyone raising desi kids in the US? What are are some of your fears?

Any recommendations for books for desi parents ? Politics , economics, world order , self help

I am a straight , but I kid you not…

Does anyone think that it’s wrong to just not need a lot of companionship? I have an SO, decent family members and I guess a few friends. And I really don’t feel the desire to surround myself with peo

People who live with housemates / have a garden. Does it get noisy / do you find people in the garden earlier than (we) finish, that distract you from your work?

Also, living how is living next to a secondary school? Noise / traffic etc?

Thanks

I have 1 one year old and have told my husband that I want to get divorced. He is being immature about the process and is just trying to make everything difficult. Sometimes he says he will move out, then he says the baby and I should, sometimes he says he wants custody when the real reason im leaving is his lack of interest amd resppnsibility toward our family. I can tell he is hurt and is upset that i dont love him anymore and want to get everything ready to make the exit easy. How do I start?

My mental health has taken a nose dive. I’m considering breaking up with my fiancee so she doesn’t have to go through the hassle of dealing with me anymore.

Do you think you and your significant other should have similar personalities? My significant other and I are doing long distance and I feel like when I FaceTime with him, I emote more and show interest by asking more questions but from his end, he doesn’t always have a reaction or just nods, and it makes me feel like he’s uninterested. On his end he sees it as he’s comfortable.

Day 27 of 31: I miss my wife.
(We're not separated or anything. I've been on an extended work/family obligations trip).

I’m in SF but nervous to officially come out to my friends even though I’m sure they all know/assume anyway. :(

GF is 32 and I’m 28. She wants kids within 2 years, understandably. I never envisioned having kids that early (more like late 30s), but I like her a lot. Anyone else gone through something similar?

There’s this guy at work I really like. We’re really really good friends but I’ve caught feels since the day I met him and I just want to tell him how I feel but I don’t want to ruin our great friendship. He’s the closest friend I have.

Any 40+ women here interested to make new friends? 40+ man here.

For those of you who do external IT Audit (SOC 2, NIST, HIPAA, ISO, etc.), how do you describe what you do to friends or outsiders that are not in the same type of work?

lol I just ran into my ex at an alumni event after a year of not seeing her. She’s on the board of the alumni association chapter. Do I just have to stop going to events, or what’s the move here?

Help pls.

I love watching my 3-year-old's engineering hacks... he wanted to pet the cat so he built a fort out of pillows and waited, now the cat's purring on his lap and they're both asleep

My gf and I are going to Vegas this weekend through September 9. Any other couple want to car pool with us to the Grand Canyon?

I guess I'll try my luck out... Isn't the ideal thing to have the passion and romance of teenagers, but with the maturity and experience of adults? Hopefully I could find someone here that has that mindset.

Anybody else struggling with the fact that nearly all their friends are coupled up?
Not in an envious way. Just... Damn, this sh*t can leave you very alone.

Hello fishes, One of My friend having 5 yrs experience as plsql developer role.
Skill set : Oracle sql PLSQL unix. CCTC : 9.5. I don’t know whether it’s a decent pay or underpaid. What would be the expected CTC he can ask for next company? Need ur valuable suggestions. Thanks

Hi All I am looking for an opportunity in Internal Audit and Sox .. I have 13 years of experience which includes EY and currently working in EXL. Pls update on any leads for Gurgaon location

Thoughts on KPMG Ignition?

Any tips from moving out of advisory and into consulting? I've helped with SAP implementation and have my AWS CCP. Really desperate to get out of risk compliance world tbh

Lazy Sunday. Any female fish like to chat?

Is it worthwhile to get an MBA as a tech-leaning consultant (data scientist)?

@BC what do you think about SHOP puts?

I have an offer from Gartner for PPR team- Principal. Can anyone help me with the team feedback, annual hikes at Gartner. I heard culture and wlb is good, but hikes are lower than 10%. Is that true?

I am an experienced CNA/MA (17yrs) trying to break into ER tech role. Previous company wouldn’t pay for phlebotomy class, and when I took a position with a company that would train me, there was so much drama and b.s.
I was out of there so fast because of the toxic environment. Should I just forget it and do my best to finish my RN?

I got reprimanded by a man for having an uninspired point of view of a conference call. He then gave me his inspired POV...which was exactly the same. When I pointed that out he said, “huh. Maybe.”

Has anyone ever dropped the coin for a paddock pass? Thinking about treating my old man for his 70th birthday at the 2022 Canadian GP. Worth it? Any tips along the purchase journey?

About to start work in ME, with the office being in Business Bay. Any recommendations on the areas I should look for accommodation? With pros and cons if possible

Hello, salary of 4 years xp for a business a analyst support in paris please

Fell out of love with real estate. The more I'm in this industry, the more I realize most people are looking to make a buck instead of helping their clients.

Everyone keeps saying that the real estate market is going to bounce back soon. At this point I'm more likely to believe that unicorns will take over the world

To those of you who are planning to apply to MBA: Make sure you choose your recommender CAREFULLY. Really evaluate the person you’re requesting the letter from, their personality, and their relationship with you. You don’t want to be back stabbed like me 🙃

I have an interview coming up I recently had an interview for a job, they told me they were unable to offer me the position the position went down, it now is active again online. Am I right to feel a little bit perturbed by this.

I am new to SD and I'm looking for recommendations on cute and/or unique bookstores to visit? Bookstores are my happy place and I would to know which ones I should be checking out!

Advice on negotiating a scholarship offer with a R2 school after already enrolling to a R1 school with a full ride?

I just finished YSOM's behavioral assessment....what the hell...

Any suggestions for how to keep my mind and body busy? My job is painfully slow and not challenging and I’ve started to re read old texts and have OD’d on Matthew Hussey videos. What are practical things I can start to help turn this next chapter? Besides job hunting! I feel like I need to throw myself into something worthwhile that I feel good about! I just don’t have inspiration or motivation right now. I feel flat.

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

TLDR: Getting over your ex of 2.5 years ghosting you after they said they wanted to reconnect.

I was dating someone for about 2.5 years and then we broke up because of COVID and the long distance was making it too difficult to continue. The break up must’ve been like a 4-5 minute FaceTime because I was very distraught. After we broke up, she started seeing someone else but I was heartbroken and it’s taken me over a year to really get over everything and process those feelings. (Cont.)

Alright it’s been 21 days of no contact. Fastest and longest few weeks since lockdown 😞 I know it’s not an exact science but I’m curious on the statistics…who’s heard from their ex after a breakup and how long after?

I hope he’s in as much pain as I am. The way he ended it was so cold and selfish and unlike how he was any other time with me. It was like a personality switch. I’ve never been so wrong about someone. I’m not sure how to process or recover from that part of it.

Here to tell you guys that each of us mending from either leaving a bad relationship or having some leave us: things are going to be amazing for us! I believe if for myself and I am so happy! And meeting new people is FUN. Laughing with friends and being yourself, away from all the drama, pain. Liberate yourself by deciding this breakup is your evolution into your best self!

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

It’s such an unsettling feeling to want to hear from someone and not want to at the same time. I’m shocked I haven’t thrown my phone against a wall. My mind wants a Rage Room but my body is exhausted and just wants sleep.

I still think of my ex. It’s been 9 months since our breakup. He cheated on me and although I walked away and never looked back, I still wonder how life is treating him. I know I deserve better. Sigh.

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

My partner of 5 years ended our relationship last night. I’m shattered and feel absolutely sick, and I know the healing isn’t going to be easy. We were on the verge of an engagement and I was ready to spend the rest of my life with him.

I don’t know how to approach work during this time. I think I can get by, but I’m definitely not 100%. Should I talk to my boss about it? My team is close-knit and comfortable around each other, but I don’t know if it’s “appropriate.” What would you do?

I ended my relationship of 6 years about 3 months ago bc he said he might regret not having kids later down the line. we were always on the fence but I’m leaning towards no. It hurts so much having to walk away from an otherwise perfect relationship. Wish this was easier…

It’s week 5 for me of the breakup and even though I had a full and fun weekend with friends and people I love, I woke up today so so sad because I wanted to text my ex. I just feel overall so defeated and exhausted from sadness and unmotivated at work :(

The biggest thing I keep running and running around my head- after 8 months, why did he drop me? When he texted ending it l….it wasn’t me, like we weren’t us, his words were from someone else, like I didn’t matter. It doesn’t matter how much it wasn’t about me, how he chose to end it, and that’s what crushed me. Who I thought I knew was wrong. I want to know how close he was to loving me.

I just need some Brugal rum, Aventura or Romeo Santos songs on repeat all night…

As much as I know I need to go through this. Today - I just felt so lonely. I was clingy and needy to strangers and just want to make some sort of physical connection with a human.

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

Do you tell your boss you’re going through a breakup? I’m phoning it in and obviously going to be camera off for awhile.