It’s week 5 for me of the breakup and even though I had a full and fun weekend with friends and people I love, I woke up today so so sad because I wanted to text my ex. I just feel overall so defeated and exhausted from sadness and unmotivated at work :(

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You know, sometimes I think that the only way to get over a breakup is to find the next person. WAY easier said than done, but filling the void (no dirty jokes!) may be the only thing to help move forward.

But for now, it’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to feel defeated. The holidays make it harder. Take good care of yourself and allow time to do its work. Just my $0.02 having recently had a breakup too 💜

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Finding another person is so hard especially when you aren't over it. You could go on dates and be like.. why can't this person be like him/her? Blank didn't do that.

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I think taking some time off work (if you can) will do you well. My productivity has been down the drain as I’ve mostly been scrolling through this Bowl and Reddit breakup pages lol. I’m on week 3 of my breakup and what’s helped me is to make a cons list on my notes app. And sometimes when I feel the need to text him I just write something on there. Sounds odd but it’s helped kick the desire. Hope this helps 🙏🏽

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Experiencing the same thing :(

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I’m on the same timeline! Very ready for 2023. I’ve been making a lot of plans and then once it’s quiet again and I’m alone the heaviness of the sadness comes back and I feel numb. I just want time to pass but also figuring out how to rebuild my life. This hasn’t been a linear process at all!

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So true, couldn’t have said it any better.

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You’re not alone 💕 I’m in the thick of it too and understand exactly how you feel. I know it’ll get easier.

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It will 100% get easier. I’m on year 3, and thriving. You got this! 🙌🏽

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This is your time to get up and go out and fill your day with things to ease your mind. You don’t need motivation, you need discipline. There’s a significant difference. Stop relying on motivation for everything. Reward yourself for staying disciplined for everyday or every week you dont text him. “I didnt text him this week…Let’s get a cute new outfit…” “I didnt cry this week…Let’s go to my favorite restaurant…” It’s perfectly acceptable to be sad, but be sad in the moment, have a good ugly cry, and move on. Time heals all wounds and you have a life to live. Not everything revolves around a man. You had a life before him and you’ll have one after him. 🫂 ❤️ Hope you find your balance soon!

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Same. We will get through this!

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