I found this article really helpful. Feeling all the emotions 1 week later! https://www.ajbrowncreative.com/single-post/best-breakup-advice

Married LGBT 🐟, what did you do with your last names? My boyfriend and I are discussing and trying to figure out if we want to hyphenate, take one, keep ours the same, or merge. Thoughts?

Dyslexia! After having our kindergartener son tested (privately) related to ADHD, we were told he may have dyslexia too (which would explain why he struggles so much with phonics but is amazing at sight words). He has a very high IQ. As a voracious reader, I am finding myself unexpectedly distraught that something that I have loved so much will be such a struggle for him, and worrying that it will affect his motivation and may steer him away from things he may otherwise love.
Tips/Commiseration?

My daughter is a recent graduate, in English Major, lives in NY and needs advice on career. I mentioned that she could do with having someone as mentor and of course someone local would be far better than someone remote and outside NY area. Any suggestions welcome!

How do you guys make friends in a new town?

I am a straight , but I kid you not…

How do I bring my spouse from India who has Bsc/Msc in Chemistry and find a great job within Big4? We married last month and I am an US citizen. Any help or suggestions??

How do I start the divorce process? Do I have to get a lawyer? Help...!

It's an exhausting time to be working in this industry, to say the least. How do you prevent taking your work home with you?

Any moms on here that absolutely love their company and feel 100% supported?

Anyone want to bar crawl the beltline tonight? I moved here during the pandemic and have no friends around

Denver culture (and suburb areas): interested to know how easy is it to make friends here. Both husband and I are late-30s, early 40s with a kid going into middle school. I’ve got a great friend group where we live now, but looking for simpler and cheaper way of life but dreading not being able to make friends.

Anyone here 40s never married, no kids?

I’m in SF but nervous to officially come out to my friends even though I’m sure they all know/assume anyway. :(

Everyone likes me because I'm a doormat with no boundaries. I do anything and say anything to make people happy. I will think what you think I should think. Will you be my friend?

My bf has asked me to help him quit the ecigs and told me he’ll probably hide them from me but he wants me to take them. So I have for the past week. He really only keeps them in his pocket, 1 drawer

How do i learn to focus on myself after a break up? I was in a relationship for a bit over 3 years and we were close to getting engaged. Weve been on/off the last 6 months but I can tell she’s making a serious effort to move on this time and I think I need to as well but i get lonely much easier these days and living by myself doesn’t help!

She doesn't know the real reason why I'm lukewarm about kids: I don't think she's matured enough. I'm trying to plan for retirement and a house, but all she wants is her next overseas vacation

I know the general answer to this, but I want to know others response.
If by your 30’s you’re mostly established in life, why is it then harder to establish a long lasting relationship with someone ?

I’ve 90 min for ELA & 6 kids. I need to teach phonics, curriculum (has 0 phonics), & goals & they need freq. breaks. Admin’s making me use said curric. Any ideas?? Small groups and rotate? TIA!

Hi ,

There is a vacancy for application support in Barclay.

I have 3+ year of experience as a Production engineer.

Skill set: Azure, Linux, SQL, Shell scripting, Automation and devops tools(Jenkins).


Can anyone refer me. Please DM me.

Does anyone here know much about the tax department at Liberty Mutual? Been talking with Liberty Biberty and can't get a great sense of how much WLB there is and benefits. Would appreciate any insight, TIA!

Anyone else ever had ptsd from an awful work experience? I'm starting at a new firm but can't seem to shake the negative feelings from my previous one

This open office plan sucks. Besides the constant din, we've got 3 agencies crammed on to one floor, sharing conference rooms and huddle rooms. Agency identity is lost and it feels like an ad factory

Hi All,

I am going to attend interview for Cloud Support Engineer 1 (Network & Security). Can anyone help me with the salary I can ask for this role. I have 3.5 years of experience.

How much EY India offers for Manager position in technology consulting role

Is there a corporate way to bring up to senior leaders that an IC is causing issues across multiple teams because they are demanding and also doesn’t collaborate well? The IC gives vague “direction” then says they are too busy to clarify. They also refuse to use our project management/ collaboration tools.

People of Color, how do you deal with an all-white team who doesn't acknowledge your (worthy) accomplishments while pats all incompetent employees?

Anyone an EA at Citadel? Do you like it?

What does a Senior Account Director for German market earn in Dublin?

Hello Folks!

During work from office days, a representative from third party vendor organization used to visit the Gurgaon office during the Investment Proof Declaration days to help folks with "rent agreements, PAN number and rent slips" (ahem!! ahem!! IYKYK) and we were able to claim tax deductions.

Is it still happening there? Also, does anyone have a contact for them?

Supposed to go on an anniversary/major birthday trip this fall to Croatia/Italy. Instead looking after Christmas/NYE domestic. Ideally not frigid but not a dealbreaker. Continental US suggestions? Not FL :)

I’m having a really hard time with my changing body. 13 weeks, I don’t have too many bad side effects of pregnancy or anything so I consider myself lucky (no nausea ever etc) but I’m depressed at work, my skin is completely broken out and showing new broken face capillaries, and I’m not showing a bump yet so I just feel fat and big. I don’t know where this “glow” is but I look in the mirror and literally am grappling with not recognizing myself :( it’s been impossible to find any clothes too.

Hi Fishes,

I have previously worked for Reliance Jio, couldn't withdraw my PF money. How can I get that now ?

Hello Fishes,

I have got an offer of 20 LPA from TCS. And i got a better offer from this.
Just wanted to know, if I reject the offer of TCS, will they put me in blacklist or something?
Or If i accept and not join them, will it have some consequences?

What guides and resources do you use to find attractions that are off the beaten trail?

The biggest thing I keep running and running around my head- after 8 months, why did he drop me? When he texted ending it l….it wasn’t me, like we weren’t us, his words were from someone else, like I didn’t matter. It doesn’t matter how much it wasn’t about me, how he chose to end it, and that’s what crushed me. Who I thought I knew was wrong. I want to know how close he was to loving me.

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

It’s such an unsettling feeling to want to hear from someone and not want to at the same time. I’m shocked I haven’t thrown my phone against a wall. My mind wants a Rage Room but my body is exhausted and just wants sleep.

I still think of my ex. It’s been 9 months since our breakup. He cheated on me and although I walked away and never looked back, I still wonder how life is treating him. I know I deserve better. Sigh.

My partner of 5 years ended our relationship last night. I’m shattered and feel absolutely sick, and I know the healing isn’t going to be easy. We were on the verge of an engagement and I was ready to spend the rest of my life with him.

I don’t know how to approach work during this time. I think I can get by, but I’m definitely not 100%. Should I talk to my boss about it? My team is close-knit and comfortable around each other, but I don’t know if it’s “appropriate.” What would you do?

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

Here to tell you guys that each of us mending from either leaving a bad relationship or having some leave us: things are going to be amazing for us! I believe if for myself and I am so happy! And meeting new people is FUN. Laughing with friends and being yourself, away from all the drama, pain. Liberate yourself by deciding this breakup is your evolution into your best self!

Anyone with anxious attachment tendencies? Going through a breakup and I keep thinking about how I pushed him away and then am down on myself, replaying memories in my mind. At the end of the day, I think we were a bad match from the beginning and misaligned, but so hard not to beat myself over my anxious attachment during my relationship

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

I hope he’s in as much pain as I am. The way he ended it was so cold and selfish and unlike how he was any other time with me. It was like a personality switch. I’ve never been so wrong about someone. I’m not sure how to process or recover from that part of it.

Do you tell your boss you’re going through a breakup? I’m phoning it in and obviously going to be camera off for awhile.

Any suggestions for how to keep my mind and body busy? My job is painfully slow and not challenging and I’ve started to re read old texts and have OD’d on Matthew Hussey videos. What are practical things I can start to help turn this next chapter? Besides job hunting! I feel like I need to throw myself into something worthwhile that I feel good about! I just don’t have inspiration or motivation right now. I feel flat.

I hate that I still want to hear from him. I just have no idea what I want him to say or what I want to say. I feel like if I get anywhere near him he’ll be able to sense my pain. Are we sure the no contact rule is only 21 days? I feel like I need 21 months.

TLDR: Getting over your ex of 2.5 years ghosting you after they said they wanted to reconnect.

I was dating someone for about 2.5 years and then we broke up because of COVID and the long distance was making it too difficult to continue. The break up must’ve been like a 4-5 minute FaceTime because I was very distraught. After we broke up, she started seeing someone else but I was heartbroken and it’s taken me over a year to really get over everything and process those feelings. (Cont.)