Any suggestions for how to keep my mind and body busy? My job is painfully slow and not challenging and I’ve started to re read old texts and have OD’d on Matthew Hussey videos. What are practical things I can start to help turn this next chapter? Besides job hunting! I feel like I need to throw myself into something worthwhile that I feel good about! I just don’t have inspiration or motivation right now. I feel flat.

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- challenge yourself to appreciate your time and the thoughts you allow into your mind. Ask yourself why go back through messages or spend this time thinking about that ex.
- Jillian on Love: find her on Spotify and listen to it
- Friends
- long walks/workout
- create your future NOW. What’s 2023 look like for you? And what are you doing now to get there?
- service projects
- plan a trip
- schedule out your week with activities
- give yourself grace

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What’s been helpful for me is reaching out to friends and thinking about how to make them feel loved! For example, I created a “mini project” for myself and throwing a baby shower for her in jan. She is so appreciative and it distracts me in a good way

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I’m working to get over my ex and I’ve started volunteering. Find something you care about and dive in! I also created a Rover account and walk dogs regularly. This gets me out of the house and brings me so much joy seeing the pups!

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