I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄

Anyone else have friends to chat with (text, call, etc) but barely anyone to hangout with in person? Most live far away or have kids so it’s hard to make time.

I really want to move out of my parents place for social reasons etc. I still hangout with friends a lot but it’s just a hassle having to drive a hour or so to kick it with them. So my dilemma is I enjoy saving $ on rent (yes I know can’t have both) but the main reason for me moving back home is so that I can save and buy a house. On the flip side with how expensive houses are right now it’s hard to even buy. I’m in CA btw SoCal. If anyone has any suggestion of places to live for a 26 YO TIA!

Would it be weird to send my ex a goodbye letter in the mail? He leaves for a military deployment soon for almost 1 year, and I generally care / miss him.

I’m shooting 3 talks tomorrow, none of the talks have been written. I can’t stop thinking about him.

Have any bottoms struggled with hemorrhoids before? Nervous mine won’t go away/this will be an ongoing issue that keeps me from bottoming in my relationship. Also a bid nervous to talk about it with my partner - concerned he’ll be turned off. Any advice would be helpful!

maybe i see the world differently than most people but the way this bowl reacts to posts about infidelity is WILD to me. if the person i love happens to hook up with somebody else, n then chooses to TELL me… it’s reason for a deep conversation. maybe even couples therapy. but it doesn’t immediately taint our bond in a way that means we need to break up, get divorced, etc.

yous all have some weird hair triggers about sex. and a misunderstanding of the essence of physical intimacy if you ask me.

My GF has trouble standing up for herself. She's on client travel and one of her co-workers made her really upset (very uncalled for and should have never happened). She called me crying. After consoling her I told her that she needs to go to her manager and possibly HR (yes it's to that level).
She told me she can't and she's not that person (she thinks she'll get the other person fired). She knows that she should and hates that she doesn't stand up for herself. What can I do to help?

When you ask your parents what they consider their most reliable news source, expecting “Fox”, but they answer “Epoch Times” 🤦‍♂️

I met this guy and it feels like he was made for me. Literally that God made him for me. I feel so blessed to have found him, but terrified of love. Now I think I’m unconsciously sabotaging everything. What can I do? Help! Please!

I hate that I still want to hear from him. I just have no idea what I want him to say or what I want to say. I feel like if I get anywhere near him he’ll be able to sense my pain. Are we sure the no contact rule is only 21 days? I feel like I need 21 months.

How do you get over someone?

I’m not sure if I’m overthinking this but I (25M) have a feeling a friend(23F) is hitting on me. Whenever we hang out she’ll get really close and keep touching/poking me whenever we need to turn corners, cross the block, etc because she’s the navigator. When we sit next to each other on the bench she’ll be up on my personal space up. Just a lot of shoulder to shoulder touching. I had other female friends this touchy as well but I wouldn’t think anything of it because some people are touchier 1/2

I love watching my 3-year-old's engineering hacks... he wanted to pet the cat so he built a fort out of pillows and waited, now the cat's purring on his lap and they're both asleep

Traveled for the first time this week since COVID and got the dreaded “do you have kids?” question at team dinner. Him-“do you have kids?” Me- “No, I don’t.” Him-“Oh good! That’s the right choice!!” Me (awkwardly)- “I still have time… I’m not even 30 yet!” (Team member who knows about our 3 month and 6 month miscarriages looking on with THE saddest face) Ughhhh. He had absolutely no idea and meant well since everyone was talking about their kids but gosh…I wish this didn’t have to be a thing😩

How friendly are people in ATL/how open are they to making friends? Just moved from Chicago to Dallas with my family and there's a huge cultural difference in terms of how friendly people are.

I got a job offer, and my wife is pregnant and due in 2 months. What would your advice? Do I accept then tell them? Or tell them first

Anyone ever gone through a separation with their spouse and have 3 small kids (under 6) in the equation? My spouse asked me for one tonight 🥲

Anyone with experience hiring a maid-cook who lives in-house.

I just went through a divorce and will need an extra hand with my kid - preparing for the new single life. All advice is welcomed

Been actively applying to jobs with no bites. Feeling pretty disheartened because really want to relocate closer to family. Going to keep trudging!

Hi Fishies, Im a application suport engineer with 7 years of experience. Java and dotnet, sql application. Please refer me for opening with immediate joiner

Anyone else have friends to chat with (text, call, etc) but barely anyone to hangout with in person? Most live far away or have kids so it’s hard to make time.

Folks ..what do u like about BA continuum ...I have joined recently and couldn't find a single good thing about this org...be it onboarding, no laptop provided ..and goodies toh i made a big mistake by expecting..why is BofA so overrated ??..

Hi, I’d be grateful if anyone could share pay bands for EY UK for consultant & senior consultant roles.

I’m interested in moving to big four from industry and currently considering either Deloitte or EY

Would be grateful for any insights on culture, benefit, hours etc

I’m conducting agile estimation for multiple scrum teams. What are the most critical things to focus on?

Can anyone share tips what they have done to reduce open pores? I have got many and need to get rid of it

Anyone read about Moto Edge X30 Special Edition With Under-Display Selfie Camera?

Do MBB’s and T2 increase pay after 1 year of tenure for entry level positions and by what %?

What’s the going rate for a freelance Senior BA Manager for, say, the major cities like LA, NY, etc.?

How difficult are client interviews at Mindtree and what if we don't crack it?

I have moderate-conservative views. My team, 6 other people, are all very left-leaning. Politics isn't usually discussed outright, but the liberal views frequently seep into our meetings. It's uncomfortable for me; I can't chime in when they talk about media, covid, news, etc. because I don't agree with their snuck premises. I get along with all of them and I don't think they realize I'm basically a closet conservative. Anyone else feel like a total outsider on their team?

Moving to Dallas from Florida. Is Lower Greenville a good/safe neighborhood?

Hello all, I work full time as an RN at the VA. I’ve been looking for a side hustle to do on my own time. I would love to review cases such as prior authorization, records for 2nd opinions, etc. The positions that I come across generally require a commitment of at least 24 hrs which is not feasible. Anyone know of any opportunities?

Are any of the firms giving severance packages for layoffs due to COVID?

I hate that I still want to hear from him. I just have no idea what I want him to say or what I want to say. I feel like if I get anywhere near him he’ll be able to sense my pain. Are we sure the no contact rule is only 21 days? I feel like I need 21 months.

He sent me a happy birthday GIF last night. Couldn’t even be bothered to type a message. It made me happy and angry at the same time. I’m not responding.

I hope he’s in as much pain as I am. The way he ended it was so cold and selfish and unlike how he was any other time with me. It was like a personality switch. I’ve never been so wrong about someone. I’m not sure how to process or recover from that part of it.

I just need some Brugal rum, Aventura or Romeo Santos songs on repeat all night…

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

Is going through a “hoe phase” an appropriate response to a break up? On one hand I think it’s good to get out of your head, but on the other hand it might be used to avoid the core issue.

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

Anyone with anxious attachment tendencies? Going through a breakup and I keep thinking about how I pushed him away and then am down on myself, replaying memories in my mind. At the end of the day, I think we were a bad match from the beginning and misaligned, but so hard not to beat myself over my anxious attachment during my relationship

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

Alright it’s been 21 days of no contact. Fastest and longest few weeks since lockdown 😞 I know it’s not an exact science but I’m curious on the statistics…who’s heard from their ex after a breakup and how long after?

I’m so happy this bowl exists 🥹🫶🏼