It’s been 5 weeks and I haven’t gone a day or night without crying and feeling haunted by them. I can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t produce quality work, can’t find joy in anything I previously loved. This is the worst physical and psychological pain I’ve ever experienced.

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I’m sorry you are going through this. But it’s a hard journey that we all had to do and might still be doing it to get to the other side.

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It does. And then it gets hard again. And then easy again. Eventually the hard times will be shorter and the easy times will be longer. Keep moving forward with the pain and don’t try to short cut it. It just makes the journey even longer.

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I’m sorry you feel that way :( it’s been 8 months for me. Although it does it better, the first 2 months seemed like there was no end in sight. Know you can get through this and force yourself to go back into a routine; cooking, going to gym, seeing friends

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Unless the person isn’t replaced, it doesn’t get better. It’s been 4 years for me.

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I know exactly how it feels. Often times I never thought I’d see the other end of the tunnel. But I did. It gets better and more manageable each day. I’m sorry you’re hurting!

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I didn’t think it was possible to feel anger, sadness, disappointment and depression all at once, but it is. I hope he feels it too. You’re right OP, that it’s both physical and mental. A full self involuntary recalibration.

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