My partner (also an attorney) is getting top surgery next month, and it will be an inpatient procedure. Any thoughts on how to explain to my firm that I will be out of touch for a day or two without getting too far into the weeds? Should I just say surgery? That seems dramatic.

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My partner is having a scheduled inpatient surgery, and I need to be there for them, so I will not be monitoring emails. If you need to reach me, please leave me a voice mail. I anticipate being back to full capacity in X days.

"Scheduled inpatient" is the vernacular that this is a big deal but nothing they should be lighting a vigil for.

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I used “scheduled inpatient” and it was well received. Thank you!!

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Just say your partner is getting surgery and need to be there for them. Don’t lie and say that YOU are getting surgery because they can check through what the insurance bills them - literally say your partner is getting and appendix or something removed

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if you’re uncomfortable saying they have an elective surgery, you might just say they’re having a minor procedure?

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