I have to tell my parents that I got engaged this weekend. They haven’t been taking the coming out well over the last year (i.e have isolated themselves from their community, screaming and crying when I’m on the phone with mom, dad hasn’t spoken to me since July). I’m incredibly nervous about this conversation. Going to have it in about two hours. Any words of advice?

Why do some muslim men think that career women in their 30s become desperate and will significantly lower their standards? Someone with 3 kids that’s been divorced twice and isn’t even practicing just told my friend he’ll do her the favor of giving her children. The arrogance is mind boggling

Anyone else sickened by Amy’s use of her black kids as props? You didn’t have to tell us that those two black kids were adopted, but way to make them feel different.

Why are sibling relationships so complicated? We live in the same city. 23M w 21M bro in same city. We’ve always clashed, got closer in 2016-2019, then in covid started fighting and not being close. 2021 summer we got into some bad fights where he said some hurtful things that made me kind of hold a grudge until our fight in September. 2022 we’ve gotten a lot closer and only minimally clashed but still even tho we share personal things sometimes and have more mutual respect, cont

I ended my relationship of 6 years about 3 months ago bc he said he might regret not having kids later down the line. we were always on the fence but I’m leaning towards no. It hurts so much having to walk away from an otherwise perfect relationship. Wish this was easier…

Dropped off my kids to school this morning and just felt unsettled. It’s so hard to concentrate on work today.

I’m finding that more and more people don’t care about what happens with her family after they die have you been observing this trend as well?

How do you plan to care for yourself this week?

On the topic of intimacy with partners… I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years and the past year his libido has dropped to zero. Mostly due to work stress (he says). Whenever I try to initiate, he always shuts me down and says he’s not in the mood. I even touch him and he gets hard but stops me as soon as I try to unzip him. We went from once a week to maybe once a quarter.

I’ve talked to him about it and he says I should take care of myself. So frustrated. 😭😭

Why are relationships so difficult!!!

How do you handle people’s kids showing up on video meetings? Screaming, kicking, hamming it up, (wasting time.) Everyone else is coo-ing…I’m not a kids person. Heard a technique which is to drop off the call bc you “assume the call is over” (which seems like a great way to get fired especially if it’s a way higher up’s kids - plus it feels rather passive aggressive.) Thoughts?

Hooked up with my ex today. Something about the holidays really tends to bring out my self-destructive tendencies.

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

Girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me right before we were supposed to leave the state and move in together. We broke up about 4 months ago. I couldn’t demonize her, so I’m still struggling with processing it and idk what to do. I’ve been looking into therapy, but I can only do online which leaves me hesitant. Any advice would be appreciated.

Any books that you found very helpful to read as expecting parents? We’re just nine weeks along, but would love to start preparing however we can!

Getting married in September, have a vax only policy for guests. My fiancé’s sister is bringing her unvaccinated spouse to the hotel where all the wedding festivities are being held b/c she is too scared to fly on an airplane without him. I find this incredibly uncomfortable and selfish given it will put me and my fiancé in an uncomfortable position (and it will also put my elderly parents and other vulnerable fam members at risk). Any ideas as to what (if anything) to do?

Best Christmas things to do with a two-year-old?

TLDR: Getting over your ex of 2.5 years ghosting you after they said they wanted to reconnect.

I was dating someone for about 2.5 years and then we broke up because of COVID and the long distance was making it too difficult to continue. The break up must’ve been like a 4-5 minute FaceTime because I was very distraught. After we broke up, she started seeing someone else but I was heartbroken and it’s taken me over a year to really get over everything and process those feelings. (Cont.)

Completely irrelevant still imp for me

Pls advise if someone can

After 8 yrs of relationship he is saying parents are not agree cannot marry....till yesterday he was like I'll never leave you..now he wants to break everything

I can't imager my life without him..what should I do

No one can feel my pain..pls don't make fun of me..

Brought too much pears from Costco. Trying to pimp them out to my family.

Has anyone here gone part time? Do your colleagues respect you less? Do you feel better about the job? Do you have a life now???

Just found out that sperm banks pay $70 per donation. I just found my side hustle 😏

Anyone know much about Simon-Kucher? I have an offer for SC there for $125k base with all-in TC for the year expected $165-175k. Currently a CO with 3-4 YOE, and considering making the move. I think CO at my firm is the equivalent to SC at B4

Making about $103k base now, so not sure if I should hold out for better

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Looking to get involved in Federal work and/or Public Sector. Can anyone give me pointers? How did you get started? What level and firm?

Hi all, i would like to introduce myself. I am new graduate of mechanical engineering (UK). Looking to enter the industry. It been really difficult for the past couple of month getting a job. I would really appreciate , if i could get referrals from people in Engineering companies or tech companies. i could work for. I am not tied to any country however i would need a visa sponsorship. I am always ready to learn and very enthusiastic. I would really appreciate. Thank you all.

Hi All,

Anyone have a recommendation for a good headhunter? I am currently a 2nd year associate (many years paralegaling before that) at a mid-sized firm in NY and am looking for a change.

Also, any cons of working with a headhunter?

Hi,
I have an interview with paytm for mobile application automation profile. Can someone help in telling me what questions can be asked? I hv 5 years of experience and 2 years into Appium.

Desperately looking for a job in Organizational Development 😩 it’s been almost a year since I finished grad school and I’m so embarrassed I can’t land anything.

PwC AC Bangalore: When we resign, do we have to deposit laptop at base location of office or PwC arrange some logistics to pick up from home?

Is it ok to reach out to a recruiter via email on a previous job position thread in regards to a new/higher role that more matches what you are looking for now?

Does tiger analytics provide training after joining as experienced? How much time generally given to cop up in the project?

Stranger Things 2. OH MAN! It's SOOOOOO GOOD!

Working for a senior who is beyond horrible. She talks to you like you’re stupid and makes it sound like you’re absolutely terrible at what you’re doing. She’s made 5 other associates cry during her 5 year career. Got someone fired and made another person quit. It’s known around the office that she can no longer have a female associate, because she talks down to females more than she does males. I came along and thought I could deal with it but she literally makes me want to not log on tomorrow.

I'm feeling a lot of anger towards my manager (now he's acting normal but there were moments where he was condescending/dismissive/mocked my and others work/arrogant/said stuff was "wrong" constantly/belittling the difficulty of tasks etc. in the past project).
Maybe it is "standard chewing out" but it bothered me a lot. So much that I find myself still getting all fired up inside thinking about it...
Idk how to let go of this :/ Thoughts?

Do all big 4 firms “even out” experienced hire salaries over time?

Can we open New Salary bank account in Optum for lateral? Or its mandatory to provide last company's salary account details and continue with same bank?

Any Boston folks?

Any Tampa Bay people in this bowl?? 😊

Hey everyone! Glad there is this bowl!

Anyone in New York City that can recommend queer legal communities other than just Lambda (which is great! Just want to broaden networking/community opportunities)

For whatever reason, there are a ton of gay lawyers in Baltimore. On a regular basis,I've noticed myself, opposing counsel, and the judge are all gay. Anyone else experience this where they live?

Happy Thanksgiving all!

We all just grindin (work) or why so quiet?

Where’s my trans & nonbinary fam at?

I keep hearing LGBTQ+ being referred to as “ The Alphabet Mafia”. I love this. I motion to fully embrace this trend by the community. All in favor, say “I”.

Hi gay lawyers in Boston! How are you all holding up during the pandemic?

My partner (also an attorney) is getting top surgery next month, and it will be an inpatient procedure. Any thoughts on how to explain to my firm that I will be out of touch for a day or two without getting too far into the weeds? Should I just say surgery? That seems dramatic.

What should I be reading or researching? First gen lawyer here, always been small firm. I’m at a 2 attorney firm now and was just approached about becoming a partner. The boss wants to clean up the books so I can review them and we can discuss. Other than professional connections, I have no idea where to turn for info/insight. I’m definitely interested, but obviously this is a big decision, so I don’t think a “partner? Sure, I’m in” is appropriate.

Anyone in philly?

Any gay folks who are the only gay person? I am the only lawyer for my company and the only gay person too.

(Family Law Attorney) Straight clients when their cases are not going my way: Accuse me of sleeping with their ex husbands Queer clients when their cases are not going my way: Come to me with genuine concern because their exes have put a curse on me and I'm being brainwashed to not work hard on their cases It's neat that all my clients who hate me also think that I'm an incredible lawyer who can do anything and am just choosing not to because of my sexuality/susceptibility to witchcraft

What do you all do to make non-professional / personal connections? Particularly with the Coronavirus, and being in domestic relations, I wake up, go to work, work out, go home. So outside of law, my interactions with people are only at the gym given that my area is draining— particularly at the moment. Probably a good thing for now; but if we take coronavirus out of the equation, I’m interested what others in the community do to develop personal connections.

NYC, anyone going to the gala tomorrow?

What can law firms do to improve lgbtq numbers? Beyond the meaningless empty stuff they do now.

So I just came out at my small firm in a small southern town. Historically, I haven’t discussed my personal life at work— but I had to give notice anyway. I told the partners I’m moving to be with my boyfriend. It was a surprisingly lovely conversation given that I’m at a firm of rich old men, deep in the heart of Tr*mp country.

My office knows that I recently came out of the closet to my family- which is fine, but making me feel young. Feeling the need to overcompensate as a result.