Started at my first real firm job after quitting a nonprofit and I’m loving the new firm! But I’m the only one with pronouns in my email signature… should I bring this up? I think everyone here is cis but it would signal inclusion when we send emails, no?

I recently quit my job. My VP was a narcissist and never really looked out for my upward progression even though he said he was my sponsor. Whenever I would do a solid job, he would always down play it or give the mid-level mgr credit even though other people / management acknowledged it. But we still got along. When I gave my two week notice, I did not meet up or talk to him (I cancelled a good bye 1-on-1 b/c I was over it) - sent a short thank you email instead and ghosted. Was this justified?

Hi ladies! First gen Latina corporate lawyer here. I’ll be relocating from DC to NYC soon. Recognizing how hard it is to find diversity in the workplace even in the most diverse cities, I’ve joined this bowl in hopes of contributing to building a community among my fellow Latina lawyers. Happy to chat virtually or grab a coffee anytime.

Any consulting firms that are particularly good for Jews or which honor Jewish holidays? My firm has a Jewish diversity team but I’d love to learn about others.

Do you ever feel you can’t tell your former colleagues how well you are doing? I worked at ML & now indep. Talking to friend at 8am, I’m at store picking up milk, etc. Friend asks, are you at store?

How do you deal with unapproachable managers/colleagues in a Jesus loving way?

Finance has received quite a bit of flack for lack of gender diversity - but how can firms go about attracting and retaining more female talent?

Consumed with negativity and unhappiness. How do you stay positive when faced with unrealistic deadlines and mean managers!?

I’ve been moved from 4th grade inclusion to 3rd grade to 3rd grade inclusion since starting my teaching career. I feel tossed around. Any one else?

Hello everyone, this bowl is just the start. We will make it big. Request you to stay here after joining. Meanwhile, do share this in your network. It would be a great help.

Till the time this bowl is growing, you can post confessions, advice, requests etc.

Use the format:
Age, Gender[M,F or any other]
Then your post.

Hello! Does anyone have any feedback they’d like to share on BIP (Business Integration Partners) specifically the Milan/Rome offices? I really like the way the firm presents itself online, though the lack of diversity in their leadership is astonishing…
Thank you!

Someone I’ve started seeing uses they/them pronouns. I’m trying my best but still feel like I make mistakes. When I want to address them is it ok to say how are you or should I say how are they?

Things have been super stressful at work lately for a variety of reasons & a couple of weeks ago I decided to raise the issues with my Creative Director.
For context, he’s the reason for a lot of these problems and I (tactfully, I think) said as much. He listened to me patiently but took no responsibility and deflected blame with every issue raised.
Today he asked me to send an email to him about how overworked I am so that he can use it to talk to management. (cont. in comments)

What are some good books to read if I want to learn how to better show up for the team as a manager?

At an in-office happy hour I once had a coworker shout out loud that she doesn’t trust people who do not drink upon discovering I had OJ in my champagne glass. #rude #IdidntGiveAfuck

Is it common for a midlevel to gossip with a first year about another first year’s work? Is it common for midlevels to trash juniors amongst themselves? I think my office is hella toxic

How do you deal with a management that doesn't seem to have a concrete process in doing campaigns? (Continued)

This is twice now in back to back weeks my boss has asked me where the disconnect was in our communications because I didn’t deliver on what “was asked”, even though I know damn well what was asked and what was done were the same thing. I’m not sure if he’s changing the meaning or isn’t communicating what he’s envisioning or what but it’s embarrassing to be called out like that, and to have people think you’re the dumb 23 year old.

I’m a new associate working for a well-known defense attorney in my state. On one hand, I’m thankful for the opportunity to learn from one of the best, but he also excoriates and belittles me for my mistakes. Any advice on how much it tolerable? I am here to learn and advance my career but he can be pretty nasty. (My mistakes are no worse than you’d expect a 1st year associate to make, in case you’re all wondering if I’m a major screw-up who deserves it) I leave work feeling a foot tall.

I had IVF process to get pregnant. During pre- embryo transfer we were told that girl embryo is being transferred. Currently I am 18 week pregnant. I had anatomy scan and we found out we are having a boy. Baby looked all healthy but due to gender discrepancy, We are asked to do additional testing and genetic disorder screening. Anyone had similar experience?

Would you guys change your PML (performance management leader) if she or he didn’t reach out during these times? I’m questioning how I should trust this person if an email from National is thought of as sufficient engagement?

HR opinion: Do I have any leverage as a hospital nurse case manager in negotiating earned time? I have 15 years within the organization, left for 10 months to be remote during the pandemic while sorting out childcare as immunocompromised family helped. Now HR is restarting my ET as a new employee. I realize I left, but not on bad terms and I am an exemplar and respected employee. I thought I’d have the upper hand with the nursing shortage but I’m getting the “rules are rules” response. Help!?!

looking for referrals at RBC BMO

Do you think someone who owns 200 ETH is financially independent?

Hi All,

Eagerly Looking for job switch as I am working in incident Management and ITIL profile and I have SQL/Linux knowledge as well. If any openings please let me know...

Hello IBMers,
IBM has offered me X amount ctc and i accepted it on portal....now got to know that market valuation for 10.3 yoe is greater than offered ctc....can i ask HR to increase the ctc and change the band...will they consider it?...not holding any counter offer as of now

Dropped off my kids to school this morning and just felt unsettled. It’s so hard to concentrate on work today.

Going through a miscarriage at the moment. Was 5 weeks-ish in and did three days of HIIT workout and here I am. I’m young so not that sad but I just hope I don’t have to get the D&C surgery. :(

Possibly looking for a remote talent acquisition or sourcing role. I have 6 years of in house corporate recruiting experience. I’m a former leader and people manager who took a step back to focus more on individual contribution. Please message me if you know of something!

Took 10mg Adderall xr at 1230 today and fall asleep at 5pm. Is this normal?

How come I have a snapshot that has all partially at level but the comments are all super positive?! The words for development is to keep the attitude and work up... (my first ever snapshot here)

Anyone here familiar with the medical records field reviewer positions at Change Healthcare? Looking to get a little more info on schedule, workload, and pay specifically. TIA!

How is the trend of Data Analyst jobs in healthcare industry?

Do we get early pay day, because Diwali? Is Talent that considerate? 🌝

Hello everyone,

I got an offer from infosys for 5.5lpa+75k bonus, & now I have another offer of 7.5k+80k from globallogic. I prefer to join infosys as it is in my home town.
But the catch here is I accepted the offer from infosys, can i talk to HR again to revise my offer as I am expecting at least 6.5lpa. I am afraid if they revoke my current offer also. Yoe:1.5y / cctc:3.85lpa
Please suggest , what is the possibility of the offer getting revise

Is there any good reason to take a 10+ minute call in a bathroom stall at work? Noticing people doing this as RTO ramps up and I really don’t understand why you wouldn’t go outside or at least in your car.

What should I be reading or researching? First gen lawyer here, always been small firm. I’m at a 2 attorney firm now and was just approached about becoming a partner. The boss wants to clean up the books so I can review them and we can discuss. Other than professional connections, I have no idea where to turn for info/insight. I’m definitely interested, but obviously this is a big decision, so I don’t think a “partner? Sure, I’m in” is appropriate.

For whatever reason, there are a ton of gay lawyers in Baltimore. On a regular basis,I've noticed myself, opposing counsel, and the judge are all gay. Anyone else experience this where they live?

My partner (also an attorney) is getting top surgery next month, and it will be an inpatient procedure. Any thoughts on how to explain to my firm that I will be out of touch for a day or two without getting too far into the weeds? Should I just say surgery? That seems dramatic.

Anyone in LA want to go hike to the sunset at Wildwood Canyon today. Thinking be there by 4.. sunset is close to 6pm

Hi gay lawyers in Boston! How are you all holding up during the pandemic?

Hey everyone! Glad there is this bowl!

Happy Thanksgiving all!

I am a bi man married to a woman. Everyone assumes I'm straight. I've considered joining the LGBTQ+ affinity group at my firm but worry on two fronts. 1) I generally feel....(continued in comments)

Any Boston folks?

Anyone in philly?

What can law firms do to improve lgbtq numbers? Beyond the meaningless empty stuff they do now.

How are we all holding up? Such a quiet bowl.

I have to tell my parents that I got engaged this weekend. They haven’t been taking the coming out well over the last year (i.e have isolated themselves from their community, screaming and crying when I’m on the phone with mom, dad hasn’t spoken to me since July). I’m incredibly nervous about this conversation. Going to have it in about two hours. Any words of advice?

So I just came out at my small firm in a small southern town. Historically, I haven’t discussed my personal life at work— but I had to give notice anyway. I told the partners I’m moving to be with my boyfriend. It was a surprisingly lovely conversation given that I’m at a firm of rich old men, deep in the heart of Tr*mp country.

Not me applying for admission in California to go help free Britney…

Small firm partner. Thoughts on exploring something personal with a professional contact wherein I/my law firm is the client?

Someone provides us services that for purposes of this post, I’ll describe as marketing. My firm pays their firm to provide us services with the aim of our law firm bringing in new clients.

Came across the owner of that business on one social dating site/app, but their profile disappeared without me taking any action. Their profile popped up on a different app/service

My fiance got Monkey Pox, it's no joke folks. Get the vaccine even if you aren't into the "scene." You rub arms with the wrong person or enter an enclosed space with someone who has mouth sores, it's going to be a bad time.

We all just grindin (work) or why so quiet?

(Family Law Attorney) Straight clients when their cases are not going my way: Accuse me of sleeping with their ex husbands Queer clients when their cases are not going my way: Come to me with genuine concern because their exes have put a curse on me and I'm being brainwashed to not work hard on their cases It's neat that all my clients who hate me also think that I'm an incredible lawyer who can do anything and am just choosing not to because of my sexuality/susceptibility to witchcraft

At a small firm, but I have another gay associate in my practice "group" super excited.