no judgement please - what's the line between high sex drive v. sex addiction? 31 here, and looking back the past few years, I have been trying to (and indeed happened) hook up with at least couple guys a day... Most of the time it's quickie, and I always have the rush to find someone and get off, then I realize this is more of becoming a "job" for me. Perhaps ~2 weeks a year that I couldn't hook up (i.e. holidays with family) I would get frustrated, and this def has impacted my dating life.

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I think this sounds like something to talk about with a professional. If you’re recognizing it’s beginning to impact you then it’s worth talking about with someone.

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This. You do appear to have a problem. This is something you could have researched a little and realized. Glad you’re looking for confirmation. This isn’t a judgement and I hope you sort things out with guidance.

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Addictions tend to have negative impacts on other aspects of your life, so if it is affecting social relationships, work, mental health, your ability to take care of your responsibilities, etc., you likely have an addiction. Based on the way you describe it, it sounds like it could be an addiction.

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That’s a lot, especially if it’s mostly 1-on-1 hookups, and even more if you’re not a hot guy living in somewhere like Hell’s Kitchen or Chelsea where sex is basically on tap.

I had a huge sex drive in my 20s and went through the same thing. At my peak it was close to a guy a day, plus group sex and parties, so the numbers added up fast, and I was sober. By my late 20s it slowed way down, partly from being in a good relationship and partly from just getting tired of it.

Looking back at 2025, I still had around 20 to 30 hookups with legit 10s, but at this point quality over quantity. If it’s not going to be great, I don’t have the energy for it.

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thanks everybody!

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Suggest checking out a group called SLAA which is Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous. This would be a good way to interact with others and see for yourself if this is addictive behavior or high sex drive. Groups are located around the country. I have several friends who go to them and it’s helped them put things in perspective.

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thanks! is there a specific one for gays?

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Echo what others have been saying. Also because finding two different guys to hook up with every day requires a lot of planning and time investment which impacts other parts of life (including dating) even if assuming you have some regulars.

In terms of total requirement, everyone has different libidos, but sex twice a day for adults must be towards the top end

If you are interested in dating someone (certainly if monogamous but even if open potentially) this type of requirement might also clash

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