Seeking advice. My jr teams are HUGE into small talk on Slack and it’s become a colossal pain point in my day-to-day. 20 mins of “hi good morning” “how are you?” messages before getting to what they need from me. I desperately need them to get to the point. I like my teams but do not always have time for what is turning into hours of empty chit-chat. I’m on the AuDHD spectrum and am worried the way I would naturally want to address this would come off as rude. How would you approach this?

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Y'all are better than me, I just leave them on read until they ask their question.

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Omg I do this do. If someone says just hi or hey I don’t reply and I wait until they ask their question. I’m unsure if it’s diabolical but it’s effective…until they wait hours and with the next message there is all of a sudden urgency...⛑️

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I’ve been in a similar spot. What helped me was setting a quick norm with the team about how we use Slack/Teams. I told them it’s easier for me when messages get straight to the ask, so they don’t need to start with long greetings or small talk in work threads. I said it in a warm, straightforward way, and everyone adjusted pretty quickly.

I also model it myself by getting to the point in my replies. People usually follow whatever tone you set. Muting channels didn’t help much. Clear expectations did.

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Make separate channels either by client or project, and have one that’s called something like small talk or chit chat. Then you tell them “hey want to make sure we’re not missing important things pls put all project related talk in here, any personal updates or cool creative things you see etc can go in this other channel.”

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I like this idea. Give them another channel to get it out of their system.

This also drives me crazy. Say hello good morning blah blah blah but ALSO include your reason for reaching out in the same message. This isn’t texting with your friend.

Maybe you can have a chat with them face to face and just explain how busy your days can be as a CD so it’s best for you if they include the reason for getting in touch on the first message. Then also explain it’s not because you don’t like small talk, you just have lots of things on the go at any time. Idk it’s def a balancing act to not come off as rude but your point is also completely valid.

I can’t remember if slack has one of those “this is an important message” functions maybe that can help too. Have them mark what is important and what is just being friendly?

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I don’t have it as bad as you, but geez I hate that. Say hello or good morning and then get to the point already. 😬
Hope someone here has some good advice.

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I say, “good, what’s up? what do you need?”

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Same. I just respond with how can I help?

Make separate channels. We have a bunch. Some are job specific, producers, timesheet issues, personal fun stuff, recipes for those who seem to have so much free time to be baking?! Separate it out & hopefully that will help keep the chaos & chi-chat under control. Just don’t squash it, it’s actually a good sign I think.

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“Alright”

That’s all it takes to move the conversation on.

maybe make a casual chat channel on slack and ask to drop chit chat and weekend movie reviews on there that way you’re not discouraging it but simply redirecting it so you don’t gotta check that chat / mute it as you need

Thanks all. Some good advice here. Appreciate it!

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