So my kid said kid B lifted her skirt, looked at her panties in school. Teacher responded today that she chatted with other kids and staff, and checked cameras and no one saw anything, and that my kid told her a different version of the story saying that he only touched her arm.

There's no reason for my kid to lie. We asked her severally and her story is very consistent. I'm about to go full Saiyan on them. Not sure how to handle this. Advise please!
What would you do?

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How old? And what are you trying to accomplish with this? If it were me, I’d tell my kid I believe them, reiterate why that behavior is not ok, and teach them what they could do if it were to happen again.. assertively say “don’t do that”, find an adult, etc. I don’t think you need to go hunting for the perpetrator, they are also a kid, just teach your side.

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They sound dismissive of the issue and like they just wanted it to go away. Things like this should be taken seriously

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I’m really sorry you’re going through this, I can only imagine how upset and protective you must feel right now. I’d suggest documenting everything your child has said so you have a clear record, and then following up with the teacher and principal in writing. That way there’s a paper trail, and they’ll have to take your concerns seriously. If you don’t feel like the teacher is handling it properly, escalate to the principal or even the district. Most importantly, keep reassuring your child that you believe her and that she did the right thing by telling you.
It’s natural to want to go full force, but staying calm, firm, and professional will give you more power in making sure the school responds the right way.

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The kids are 6, what are you hoping to accomplish? Do you want him on the sex offender registry? Your kid gave conflicting info, so either lied to you or the teacher and they’re 6, so yes they lie or exaggerate stories whether you think your baby would absolutely never or not. The school investigated and gave you their results. They can’t punish a kid over something they can’t prove and that the story changed. Let it be a teaching moment for your child about the importance of truth telling, about body autonomy and boundaries etc. and then let it go.

Ask for the video?

Very reasonable request given the situation

What is Saiyan? Who is the them receiving it? Kid? School?

@MHS1, thank you so so much! I appreciate this and will be following up. The principal responded to say they don't share videos externally and they have checked and nothing happened. My daughter is telling the truth, I know and her story has remained consistent.
The principal now wants a meeting to discuss her performance in school. We're definitely not letting go of the main issue why we contacted them.

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Well, what does your kid's perspective have anything to do with kid B or the victim at hand? Is he just speculating? Or is it that he witness something and justice has to be done... What are the odds of schools having cameras anyway to expose the lies that one might tell unless they are the ones telling the lies and what about the poor kids? Will someone help them?

I would hold a parent/teacher conference and suggest teaching the children about respect of personal space...

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