I’m struggling with an issue with a student right now. I teach in a suburban school outside of NYC that has a very large majority of white students. One of my Black students was recently involved in a biased incident with another student in which he received racist social media messages and racist spoken words from the other student. This was a kid that my Black student thought was his friend. He’s heartbroken, and so am I. I want to know how I can best support my student.

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The student who made the remarks should receive some kind on intervention or discipline (whichever your school does). If his behavior isn’t directly and specifically addressed, it is condoned. It sounds like there hasn’t even been an apologetic conversation around why what he did was wrong… That’s how to support your student: Stand up for him and help create a safe learning environment where students do not cause irreparable harm to each other in this way.

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Have there been similar incidents in the past? If yes, what was done to publicly acknowledge the offense and publicly engage all stakeholders in taking action in support of the offended? For example, I know of a district where there were swastikas displayed over a period of weeks. The school administration and central office administration were quick to have assemblies with students, have meetings with parents, and invite consultants to publicly speak against these racist acts. The investigation did not stop until the perpetrator was identified.

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Ask the aggrieved student how you can help. A mediated discussion with the offending student might help some students but will not help others. Conveying how much the remarks that were made hurt the victim can make the difference between the offending student deciding to double down on their racist opinions and that same student realizing that racism is a bad idea.

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Was there any disciplinary action taken

I referred the situation to our Student Assistant Counselor and our Administrators. I know that they are dealing with it in some capacity, but I’m not privy to the specifics.

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