Tonight my wife admitted that she overreacted to something I said over the weekend.

I don’t…I don’t know how to process this? I said thank you for acknowledging that and then hurriedly changed the subject.

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As a wife who has from time to time realized after emotions have settled that sometimes I may have reacted bigger than appropriate or warranted, I think acknowledging her is a good step. If you feel conversation is warranted do so sooner rather than later so it doesn't fester for you and so she doesn't forget the event in question.

Otherwise, sounds like growth and a woman who is interested in keeping her marriage healthy.

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Practically, I’d ask further questions to better understand what actually set her off (phrasing, tone, timing, external stress) and learn from that to avoid in the future. And communicate to her that is your intent. “Thank you” was a good call, changing subject not so much but not irreparable.

I would advise doing something nice for her like cooking or cleaning since you and she are likely still a little ruffled.

Personal opinion, YMMV.

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I'm unsure what you're trying to process. The fact she recognizes her overreaction? The apology? It sounds to me like she is trying to look at herself in a mirror and be a person she WANTS to be. Not who everyone else wants her to be. Doing work like this is tough. It can be very difficult for anyone to admit they were wrong or over the top. It's a great step in her personal progress, and it will also help her in her professional ventures. Buckle up. There might be a lot more like this coming your way. Acknowledge it and love on her. She will need positive reinforcement to help her stay in that forward motion. A simple hug could be a great healing and connecting moment for you both.

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OP - hopefully, this is a new way of life for her. I feel like I was raised in an odd way. I have always accepted that I will not be perfect. Some day, I might be downright rotten. It doesn't mean I can't apologize and ask for forgiveness. I am only human, just like everyone else. No one will reach perfection. I truly believe that when someone accepts that as fact, admitting when you're wrong becomes so much easier. I truly hope this is something your wife has realized. Life will become exponentially better for her and for you both. Staying married through the last 14 years shows your love and dedication to her and the marriage. It's this safe place of love you've created that is allowing for this change. Her taking responsibility and apologizing is proof that your love for her has made her stronger and more self-assured. While it's a "win" for your wife to be able to admit to her missteps , it's your "win" too. I hope this is a new level to what will be an extraordinary next 20 years.

Been married for 10 years now. Our opinions have gotten stronger over the years, meaning we have been less willing to compromise/meet in the middle at times. This has caused for some arguments. My wife and I have learnt to call each out other out when we feel the other is in the wrong. Sometimes we do it naturally. But I think it’s evolvement of the relationship. We always reconcile at the end of the day. Take the apology, explain how her initial reaction made you feel, state you’re very thankful for her acknowledging and move on.

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Damnnn you are soo lucky

In instances like this, I like to use classic conditioning. Praise and reward the behaviors that you want to continue. Over time, they will learn to do it without the reward 😂

Good you change the subject… sometimes it is better to let go

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don’t take the route of ‘I told you so’ and reignite the original argument. Always taking high road will help with peace at home

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