What hobby or interest is a red flag for you when dating? Last night, I was on the third date with a guy I was really into. He was giving me a tour of his home and showed off his love of collecting WWII memorabilia. I guess he had several family members who fought in the war. This wasn't a red flag all in itself but I noticed that the vast majority of his collection wasn't from the Allied side. I made up an excuse and left shortly after. Am I overthinking this? Not sure if I should run or not?

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Ask him if he wishes the other side had won straight up. Millions of Americans are obsessed with the confederate. How is this different?

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That’s a great approach to this, I like that question. I don’t know but it could be he collects the other side because it might hold more $ value if he were to resell it. I have a friend who collects war memorabilia but as an investment so his collection is based on resale value, not just personal interest.

Showing off a ww2 collection on date 3 is probably a red flag regardless of which side of the war is more represented in the collection.

But if he had a reason to think you would be interested at all in the collection, it kind of depends on where the stuff axis came from. My grandfather’s parents were German immigrants and he grew up speaking German at home - which meant he was the de facto translator for his unit and also spent a couple years in Germany post war doing translation in support of the Marshall plan. He translated at many formal surrender ceremonies and brought home a few footlockers full of war trophies - guns, knives, daggers, flags, you name it. He was incredibly proud of what he viewed as his service both to our country and to his fatherland ridding it of evil and when he was alive kept some it out as a display.

My family ended up donating the bulk of it to the Smithsonian a few years ago and it’s now mostly on display as a small part of an exhibit at the American history museum. I have a few items tucked away though - they’re a small tangible reminder of my Grandpa and the small role our family played in helping win the war. But not something I would ever have on display or show to someone unless I knew they were interested in WW2 and would understand their significance.

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"and, uhh, what specifically do you find interesting about that period of history?"

"The scale... The tragedy."

"... And which tragedies specifically?"

"Europe decimated...7m Germans, 20m Russians, 5m Poles"

"...yeah... Just... Just checking the till here, and it seems like you're short a few million..."

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RUN!!

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I don't see the problem. Wait until you get older...you will lower your expectations drastically lol. I mean who cares what he collects so long as it isn't dead bodies.

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No hobbies. Everyone has a different thing they like to do. As a photographer some ladies don't like that I am involved with art. Its ok, if you don't like their hobby, then stop dating them. Its that easy.

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Yah mostly Nazi shit is a red flag

Do you think he is a Nazi sympathizer?

I second EY4 ! TRUST YOUR GUT!

Was he at the US Capitol on January 6, 2021 ?

It’s a red flag that his WWII memorabilia collection is clearly focused on Nazi memorabilia.

That’s different from someone having an item or two that their great grandfather brought home from the war where they went to kill actual Nazis. 🫡 🇺🇸

This guy is seeking out Nazi memorabilia to treasure and display. Leave the incel fascist alone to his own devices, if people stop partnering with them maybe they will go extinct.

I would be worried if the axis stuff was new rather than truly artifacts from the past. History happened, can't change that, and some people are really into it for no other reason than the historical factors....it doesn't mean they support it. If the Nazi flag is new.....well ...run.


I would also run if they have:
Too much clown memorabilia
A freezer you aren't allowed to open
A room that is locked from the outside
Any kind of shrine, but especially bad if it includes candles or dead animals

It's not an exhaustive list....but a good start I think. Good luck

First off, I agree with everyone here telling you to trust your gut, regardless of what the specific issue is. Second, yeah, anyone with a bunch of Nazi paraphernalia lying around gots some 'splainin' to do. If someone's just gonna have that stuff and act like it doesn't bear explaining, yeah, gross.

Why post this in accounting?

I guess it’s accounting and dating related, in dating they not accounting major to understand lmao

I am a history and WWII buff. I think that is someone had one or two curiosity pieces from the Axis side, that might be OK, but if they are giving off a "I am fascinated by the Third Reich" vibe, that is completely different than having a fascination with Churchill or FDR. If the guy has a lot of German or Nazi memorabilia you were probably smart to stay away.

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