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Ask him if he wishes the other side had won straight up. Millions of Americans are obsessed with the confederate. How is this different?
That’s a great approach to this, I like that question. I don’t know but it could be he collects the other side because it might hold more $ value if he were to resell it. I have a friend who collects war memorabilia but as an investment so his collection is based on resale value, not just personal interest.
Showing off a ww2 collection on date 3 is probably a red flag regardless of which side of the war is more represented in the collection.
But if he had a reason to think you would be interested at all in the collection, it kind of depends on where the stuff axis came from. My grandfather’s parents were German immigrants and he grew up speaking German at home - which meant he was the de facto translator for his unit and also spent a couple years in Germany post war doing translation in support of the Marshall plan. He translated at many formal surrender ceremonies and brought home a few footlockers full of war trophies - guns, knives, daggers, flags, you name it. He was incredibly proud of what he viewed as his service both to our country and to his fatherland ridding it of evil and when he was alive kept some it out as a display.
My family ended up donating the bulk of it to the Smithsonian a few years ago and it’s now mostly on display as a small part of an exhibit at the American history museum. I have a few items tucked away though - they’re a small tangible reminder of my Grandpa and the small role our family played in helping win the war. But not something I would ever have on display or show to someone unless I knew they were interested in WW2 and would understand their significance.
All of the people making excuses for this are giving me the ick. You already know it was a red flag and that's why you left. Trust your gut. Please don't ask random strangers on the Internet to talk to you out of the good decision you already made. (For context: Two of my closest friends are German, direct relatives of theirs died in the war or committed suicide thereafter, and they have zero memorabilia for for very good reason.)
This doesn't really surprise me. Or seem like a red flag in and of itself. The soldiers who fought in WW2 collected and kept souvenirs from the Axis. Even stuff like Hitler's photo album. And getting weapons from the other side was also something most soldiers really wanted.
If they are a WW2 collector it make sense to have things from several different countries. However, if it's all they talk about and seem they seem to get this crazy look in their eyes when talking about the Axis, then probably a good call.
Remember the scene in Saving Private Ryan where Caparzo gave Mellish the Hitler Youth Knife? Pretty sure Mellish, had he survived the war, would not have displayed the knife on his wall.
I'm Black. If a date was obsessed with the Confederacy that would be an immediate red flag for me
What if your date was obsessed with blm ?
Did you ask him about it ?
He's the one who showed me everything. I didn't ask any follow up questions.
Things that give me the ick. People that put animals ears and nose on their dating profile picture. Or that really REALLY love Disney.
Assuming he is white.....
I'll just ask who did you vote for...
Yeah that would be an ick for me too. Obsessing over any war is weird and especially the wrong side.
If you felt uncomfortable then its a red flag.
Why this post is in an accounting bowl?
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The presumption here is that he's pro-Axis? Seems like a potential leap.
I've heard of folks collecting Lenin paintings due to a sheer fascination with how humanity could morph in such a way and the art's commentary on the human condition.
It COULD be a literal case study in watching our own hearts to not repeat the past. Or he could be a neo-Nazi 🤷♂️
That Lenin thing is weird too
It really doesn't matter what the rest of us think, if it was a problem for you, that's fine. Relationships aren't supposed to be based on logic, but rather feelings.
If you still liked him, but thought it might be a red flag, you could have just asked him about his fascination with Axis memorabilia and what got him into it.
I guess ask him more questions on his stands..
I would have a conversation with him and should be pretty easy to tell if he is a history buff or actually sided with the axis and its intended as some kind of sick shrine.
Keep in mind that in museums all over the world there are nazi artifacts that millions of people visit. Even a lot of the concentration camps are still able to be visited by tourists. I went to one when I was in Europe and it was one of the most eye opening things I’ve experienced.
Some people just love certain aspects of history and even the worst parts of it are import to learn from so mistakes are not repeated. It’s all about the lens it’s viewed through but I think there is a big difference between having a collection of historic artifacts and having swastika tattoos.
I did not know this was a dating site lol lol
We were having dinner with long-time friends over the weekend, and we heard their detailed story of how their son-in-law only worked part time, and spent all his money on traveling to see jam bands, especially one group that rhymes with Wish, instead of using it to help support his wife and their kids. This is my roundabout version of saying that I wouldn't date someone if we didn't have the same or similar tastes in music.
That’s more of a “loser” thing than a “music” thing.
Maybe he is just trying to see both sides. I like WWII. We have watched several German movies (Generation War is a good one) to learn both sides of the conflict. I studied German in HS and went to Germany for 3 weeks. Had an amazing time.
Remember the quote "There were good people on both sides"? Yeah, right.
You may be overthinking it has the easiest WWII collectibles to get are German due to people having similar reactions as yourself. If most of his collection was Nazi or SS memorabilia, then that would be a true red flag.
That's an interesting point. Maybe I am over reacting
If he had family that fought on the axis side, there might be a familial connection to specific memorabilia. For example, even though I was born in the USA, I had family back in Italy that were on the wrong side of history. I could make a case for having something from a brigade that my cousin was in - especially if it were passed down from family.
On the other hand, he could be what you are thinking. Have you asked why so much of his collection is axis focused?
She doesn't seem to care to. Seems like an "ick" maybe.