Can I take bereavement time to put down my cat? Was told today essentially have to do that… not sure if a firm would look negatively upon that.

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Just been getting depressed about the news today. Makes it hard to focus or be motivated at work. The day we have to put her down idk how I’m going to do that. Oh sorry guys gonna be out of pocket for a few hrs to put down my friend but will be right back on in a few hrs to turn that doc? Just feels twisted. The thought of having to go through that motion just makes me even more depressed.

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I’m so sorry. Please do take the time you need. This is one of those things where anyone who would give you shit can suck it.

Take the time, for sure. Whether it’ll count as “bereavement” in terms of how to track it, almost certainly no per your firm’s policy, but no one fact checked me when I entered bereavement time for a funeral.

I’m sorry you’re going through this 😞

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Yes, absolutely. As a proud dad to 2 cats that mean the world to me, I’d take the entire week off.

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I am so sorry to hear about your cat. Pets are so special, and it is heartbreaking that we can only enjoy their company for such a short amount of time.

I had to go through this last year when we had to say goodbye to ours. I didn’t take formal bereavement leave, just told my team what was going on, and they were very understanding and treated it like a personal day.

We are lawyers, but we are humans first, and it’s fine to take a day to do a very human thing like grieving.

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This is plain PTO, not bereavement leave. And it depends on the firm. A few years ago, my cat was near the end, and they basically told me to take the time I needed. I took two days. One as a last day with the cat, and one to take her to the vet the last time, and then dispose of my cat stuff.

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I’m so sorry for your loss. What was the cat’s name? It always makes me feel better to focus on the life that was led rather than the death. Look through pictures. Reminisce on any places you took the cat. I would even have a small get together with anyone else that loved/liked your cat as a celebration of life.

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I would just tell them the reason and that you’re taking the day off. Then just record it as a sick day. Unless they are monsters they should understand. Sorry to hear you’re going through this.

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I’m so sorry you’re going through this. We lost a pet at the beginning of the month and it was so difficult to work through that first week. Definitely take the day off.

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I'm so sorry. Pets are precious. Take at least the day if not longer. Death in the family or family emergency are totally acceptable reasons for being out a few days.

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How much time do you want to take off?

I don’t think you even need to give an explanation for why. Just say it’s a family emergency and leave it at that.

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I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s never easy.

When I had to put our dog down I was lucky I could plan it for a day I predicted would be somewhat quiet, let my assistant know what was going on, and she ran interference for me. I didn’t call it bereavement leave, I just didn’t bill a lot that day (maybe answered a few emails).

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