Dear people of this bowl - if you’re planning to have a “no kids” wedding - I suggest making it an “no kids except infants” wedding. We did a “no kids” wedding, and I regret it.

I didn’t realize that breastfeeding parents need to pump every time their baby feeds from a bottle, so even if they got a sitter, they’d have to pump at the wedding. We had friends who RSVPed no for this reason, and I only wish I had understood their situation sooner!

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Most of the people requesting this don’t want infants either..

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Agree with consultant 1. Def don’t want crying screaming infants. Sure, some will be great but I don’t think the majority of infants will be silent and unobtrusive.

a wedding is also not a great environment for infants. Lot of noise, drunk strangers, potentially distracted parents.

However, at the end of the day, it’s whatever the bride and groom want 🤷

parents can choose to step away to pump or just decline. bringing infants , aka the kids that cry the most and need the most attention, is legit the exact reason people want no kid weddings. makes no sense to include them

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I felt the same way too! But I regret my decision now, hence the post.

I recently attended a wedding and sat next to a couple with an infant, and I learned a lot about their situation. I didn’t realize how difficult it would be both logistically and emotionally; I didn’t know I was asking so much of my friends. In retrospect, having my friends attend our wedding would’ve meant more to me than having an infant cry here and there.

That being said - I didn’t have a massive wedding with random 2nd cousins that I never talk to. Everyone on the invite list was people we care about. We also had a wedding where most people needed to travel to attend, so they would’ve had to hire a random sitter, which is a lot bigger ask than just leaving a baby with the grandparents.

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Would it have been a non-issue if the wedding was at a hotel (with a babysitter or family member monitoring the infant)?
Mines going to be at a hotel so I’m imagining the mother going upstairs for 20 min a couple times or so. She’s bringing her nanny; for other guests’ kids I’m working on hiring a professional babysitting service.

That’s very generous of you! I hadn’t even thought of that, but definitely a great way to help all your friends attend.

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