Hard Week - request for your craziest disgruntled male subordinate management stories. Need sanity check that it has happened to others, and that I will pull through with career/reputation intact.

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Curious.. care to share your story? I had a guy in my office bad mouth me to everyone behind closed doors, except I could clearly hear everything he was saying. I waited until he came out and confronted him. It got ugly but the whole thing was just brushed under the rug.

I once was managing men who would listen the moment my subordinate told them the exact same thing that I did a moment before. I was also the only woman in leadership and the chair - luckily people saw him as a loud person/an outlier, but I do think it hurt my presence nonetheless. Hopefully we can be mindful of these kinds of undue disturbances and help shape reputations of non cis men in the workplace going forward

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