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Omg Alabama, are you me? You’re describing my situation to a tee. Add tired and at times totally exhausted to your list.
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. Please put managing your autoimmune disorder as a top priority. If you need a sick day- take it, even if it’s to sleep!
In terms of admitting what’s going on, the answer is not totally. I do tell kids that I have something called lupus and that at times
I don’t feel my best. Then a thousand questions follow. I answer some of them. When they ask me if I’m going to die (which some might due to their hx), I say, No way! and use a little humor. If they ask me how I feel having lupus, I say that sometimes I’m tired or will get a headache (which is not only true it’s innocuous) and leave it at that. Usually that calms their curiosity. If they continue to ask questions I typically distract their attention to something else. Dm me anytime.
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I would never be able to stand all day, or even most of the day. No way. I’ve been working hard at not feeling bad for doing what I need to do. The district doesn’t accommodate me anyway, I tried that last yr. I got a Dr note stating I couldn’t be ‘directly’ involved in managing physically aggressive kids. I was told by the sped director that the district couldn’t make that accommodation for me. I took 3 months off. I went back fully knowing in my mind that I was not getting involved with a kid throwing down. I’ll house them in their cool down and recovery, supervise them in the clean up, supervise the in school suspension, you name it and I’m in. I can no longer be involved in the direct management of an aggressive kid. I’ll wait till I’m written up and shit I’ll go through the whole process. Then I’ll retire! It’s been very hard and I truly sympathize with all of you.
I have a friend with epilepsy. She does an entire PowerPoint presentation so the students know what to expect if she seizes in class, what to do, and what to watch for if they need to get help. But hers is almost inevitable. There will almost certainly be one incident (or several) where the students are present and need to take action. I have another friend who never mentions a chronic condition even when it’s obvious he is feeling poorly. I think it depends on the individual, whether students will need to know what to do, and your relationship with the students.
I have diabetes and let my middle schoolers know at the beginning of the year. I tell them that there are times when my blood sugar may run low and I’ll sometimes need to eat something during class. I have a policy of allowing kids to eat in class as long as they clean up after themselves so they don’t feel like I can eat and they can’t. They’re always super supportive of my needs, and they tell me about family members who also have diabetes and the importance of eating a healthy diet.
AL and MI, I’m on the same page. I have the trifecta on autoimmune deficiencies. I have RA, Osteoarthritis, and Fibromyalgia. I’ve have them for a long time. I have an FMLA on file with my district for times when I just can’t continue with the day and have to leave because of pain or fatigue.
I’ve learned that autoimmune problems can be misunderstood. These conditions can not be seen, so it’s difficult to see when we are having a bad day. Some of my colleagues, principal, and vp know about my condition. Basically, I tell people who need to know; nobody else.
I’ve dealt with these conditions for about 25 years now. I’ve only told one child about it and it was after they graduated from college. My reason for not telling students is simple; I don’t want to share this medical information with parents. Maybe I feared (I’ve been retired for a year) that the parents would blame my condition on how their child was doing in my class.
In terms of an explanation to my students, I blamed it on sleepless nights, landing on my ankle wrong, or even allergies. Kids have so much to be worried about these days. I just don’t want to add to those worries or to have to explain the complexities of autoimmune diseases. I taught ELA for 27 years. On days that I was in pain/fatigue I would have them read from their novels, or play review games that let me sit.
I admire your honesty with your students and wish you the best going forward. I can tell you that retirement has really unloaded a lot of physical stress on my body. Take days off when you need them. It’s in the best interest of you and your students. ❤️❤️
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You’re very kind. Thank you!
I, too, have an autoimmune disease. I don't elaborate. Just say, "y'all, I'm not feeling well today, so let's get done what we need to today." Teaching HS, the kids live for anything "off topic." Many days, my butt is dragging, and I know I need to rest, so try not to expend a lot of energy those days at school. HSs are somewhat easier to work for you, unlike younger kids who need more hands-on direction. DM me anytime too!
I do let the kids know when am not feeling quite right. I think they do care and have found when I am honest with them it is easier. Now with that said there are those who don’t care, but on the whole they do. Shows them I can have off days just like they do.
Actually, I believe you should let your students know when you don't feel your best. I don't go into details, but I just say I'm having a bad day, or I don't feel my best today.
I also have an invisible disability (hEDS and POTS) and on off days I’ll tell my kids (2 & 3 years old) that ‘some days my body hurts’.
My teaching team knows and I tell them if I’m flaring so that we can cover each other appropriately. I also have and use a handicapped placard in our parking lot, so it’s not really something I have tried to hide from the community.
It makes all the difference. 💞
I had breast cancer and told my high school students what was up, and that I hoped to work through chemo. Yeah, no. Didn’t work. Had to take iff for two trimesters the chemo and radiation did a real number on me. When I returned, on the first day I told the kids to ask me anything they wanted. They did. We had the best conversations! After that, if I said I wasn’t feeling great, you could hear a pin drop fir the rest of the block. They get it more than we realize sometimes.
I think you can say something without having to disclose every detail. I have a chronic condition that makes me feel achy and tired some days. You may find some of your students have stuff too or their family members do too. Fibromyalgia and POTS and other chronic pain conditions are more and more common. My kid started symptoms of this at 9. Good luck and good health to you!