Really struggling so hoping I can get insights from this bowl. I’m having a difficult time working with people from a particular culture and it’s always the people from this group that make work so stressful for me. I find it suffocating to be told to celebrate and recognize different cultures but when it comes to negative behavioral patterns in said culture we have to act like they dont exist. I’m aware of how bad this sounds and the importance of diversity, I’m a POC myself.

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The fact that you feel it's an entire group proves that it's a cultural difference, not a difference in nature or behavior. Some behaviors that are normal in some cultures make other cultures uncomfortable... this goes for all cultures. I'm sure as a POC, you know certain things about your culture that make white people uncomfortable. It doesn't mean that they should not want people of your race around, even if it does. It's part of living in a diverse world. Being uncomfortable makes you grow.

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I think it’s a combination of cultural difference and socioeconomic factors. they’ve newly immigrated and delve into invasive topics at work and step all over others to get ahead, but I find its much less prevalent from people from the same culture who’ve grown up here. Thing is I’m not here to work for this group, and I don’t feel like I’m growing it’s just compromising my mental health.

I agree with your points and definitely think it’s what behaviors are normalized in certain cultures, I’m not sure theres an equivalent in mine that make others so uncomfortable as we’re usually known for having manners etc vs this group has a reputation which is similar to the way that I feel about them. I wish I had the heart to enjoy these differences but instead I feel so crossed and slighted by little things they do

I feel this shows your own blindspots and biases. Perhaps spend time to understand what drives their culture - what values in the workplace do they value, what do they strive for and how is this expressed in behaviours?

What similarities do they have with your culture?
Understanding more will help you manage your own ways of addressing challenges that arise.

Reality is we can’t cherry pick who we want to support from a DEI perspective and if there is a background or dimension you struggle with then you need to spend even more time understanding to be able to be an effective leader

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What negative behaviors do you mean? Being loud and vocal? Can’t imagine you found such a specific set of issues in a large group of people. Maybe it’s you?

It shows up differently in every instance, but general lack of consideration for other people and haggling behaviors. I’ve had negative experiences with the group before my current job but it’s been affirming it and the stress is building up for me. Some cultures are not conducive to collaborative behavior and as much as diversity matters it feels like it clashes with workplace morale and company culture.

I know it’s the politically correct thing to say you can’t generalize a group, but patterns exist and it’s frustrating when you can only name the positive ones and get cancelled for anything negative. Sorry this is lengthy but genuinely frustrated that these people keep getting hired into the company and I have to deal with another iteration of similar behavior

Is there a manager you can talk to about the behavior and provide specific examples of the behavior? Maybe they can address the issue in a way where no one feels attached. Maybe the manager can stress how collaborating is better for the team and the company as a whole.

This is helpful - I was planning to talk about a specific coworker but felt like it can be applied to this group overall. It’s difficult because its the accumulation of very small things that you’d be taught at home

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If you're experiencing negative behavior from someone from a different culture don't just sit back and take it. Talk to the person directly or if that's not possible, talk to your manager or HR representative.

OP, are you suggesting that Diversity may not be our strength after all??!

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