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No feedback = good thing. People are busy, if u don’t hear anything you can generally assume what u are doing is fine
If you’re truly seeking external validation, seek Jesus. Jesus will heal you internally. God Bless.
Agree. Jesus is the only truth, way, and the life. He is the only reason I can get through the long days. In the end I know everything is going to turn out for my good regardless of how things look in the short term. If I didn’t have him I don’t think I would have lasted this long in big law. But most importantly, I realize the job and the money are not the point. If I lost my job, I would be okay too because I have Him. Jesus is the answer and the most precious treasure. May the Lord heal you from your anxiety. And may you be very successful in your job. But most importantly may you find Him.
I’m on anxiety medicine. After trying various other methods therapist recommended I see a psychiatrist, who then recommended anxiety medicine. She explained the medicine to me in great detail. And I must say, after being apprehensive, I gave it a try because the anxiety was getting to me too much. It has done wonders for me. I can better focus on my work instead of letting my anxiety take me into a spiral.
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I’ve been struggling with this exact situation although I’ve been at my new firm longer now. I also tried new meds (for anxiety and adhd) with mixed results. I ended up in a somewhat better spot with one new med but the process of testing out different meds was a rocky process so I understand your hesitation. What also helped me was working with my therapist to figure out why my brain went to worst case scenarios in the absence of feedback. Understanding that the anxiety filling in the gaps is a maladaptive protective mechanism was really helpful for me to begin pushing back against it.
The biggest thing that helped me get over chronic anxiety was realizing that the worst thing rarely, if ever, happens and that the worst things that do happen tend to be totally unpredictable anyway, but that in any event, I've always handled them and gotten through them just fine!
It's simple and may not work for other people but I couldn't keep torturing myself so I let it all go and just focused on what was in front of me. What's the next step you need to do at work or for your career? That's all that matters and you can handle that.
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We are in an incredibly tough, stressful occupation. Finding what helps you early on will assist you throughout your career.
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Ask yourself “what the worst that can happen”. Answer is likely, I lose my job. Okay, if this happens (which it likely won’t) what do you do? You find another. Regardless you remind yourself that you can handle the outcome and keep putting in the work to be a great lawyer
Medicine isn’t going to help a severe lack of confidence. Maybe try a career coach? If you have confidence that you were hired for a reason and that you are a damn good lawyer, you’ll be less anxious about whether people are perceiving you as those things. Half the successful people in this world got that way because they have delusional levels of confidence.
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Ps currently in the same boat. We’ve got this!
Fake it till ya make it