I have a great employee but one thing she does drives me insane! If I give her a directive, she responds with "I know." Or "I already thought of that!" To be honest, it has irritated me to the point that I've responded "no you didn't know, because I just made that decision." It seems like she wants the recognition of these directives which is fine by me. I usually don't mind building someone up. Internally though? Nails on a chalkboard for me.

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Time to start asking her what she thinks is the next step, and see if she does have that all down. If so, you can let her run with something and focus on other things (win for you) or if not, you can continue to coach (status quo).

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I am invested now and curious to know how it goes!

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Well, devils advocate here, I have a superior who constantly micromanages me, and tells me to do things I already knew I needed to do, and was intending to do, often right around the time they reach out with these “directives”. It gets annoying bc their previous feedback was to run the project myself with less oversight, but they won’t stop giving directives and give me a chance to run the damn thing. Like they think I don’t already have the project plan set up, and tell me every direction every day. Idk how to tell them to back off until I actually miss a deadline.

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Yea I suppose if it’s information they couldn’t have possibly known, then it’s more like subordination / annoyance with you, and that kind of dynamic needs to be addressed head on.

I would coach her on it. I had someone on my team who felt he needed to reinforce everything he said and did. It created animosity on the team. Once I made him aware of it and gave him advice on what to say and what not to say he changed. It was more of an awareness and my feedback was focused on helping him.

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Great advice! I'll try to find an approach that works for us.

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Something similar on AskAManager recently:
https://www.askamanager.org/2023/09/my-employee-says-hes-already-thought-of-every-suggestion-i-make.html

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I'm glad it was helpful! I love this column and get a ton of good tips from here

Dealt with something similar and just flat told her the response was grating and made her come across arrogant, even though it wasn’t her intent. Told her to practice the power of the pause and just confirming she understood. It was hard and she took it hard but once she put it into practice it helped so much because she had the same habit with other people who felt similarly. It’s a gift to be told this so you can correct it instead of eventually losing out on opportunities because people can’t stand a habit you have.

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Thank you. I love all this advice

Following. I’m going through something similar.

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