I need some advice..... my manager is not an advocate for me. She often speaks to me and writes to me in a condescending tone. She's very dismissive to my ideas but always takes credit for them when they go over well. Lastly, I could say today would be perfect if the sun was out and she'd say I was being negative. I've tried to talk to her, I spoke with HR and I have even tried to stay out of her way. Nothing is helping.... what would you do? (I think I should mention she's also a black woman.)

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So sorry to hear this, I’d recommend crafting an email and copy the HR person you spoke with for everyone to meet and hear the conversation, discuss the concerns, come up with a solution to have a better working relationship so you have documentation in case things don’t improve. 🙏🏾 and sadly some people are just miserable in their personal lives and bring that negativity to work.

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We had a call with HR and it didn't go anywhere... they are peers so I feel like they could be friends. However documenting asking for a follow up or saying I don't think it was helpful is probably smart. Thank you.

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This sounds like a horrible working situation

Have you considered moving onto another role?

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Absolutely, the job market is really hard to navigate right now so I haven't had much luck.

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