I took a job in a new state thinking it would be a fun adventure, but I underestimated how isolating it is to rebuild your whole life from scratch. New city, new firm, no friends... and I’m working so much I can’t figure out how to meet anyone outside of work. I didn’t expect to feel this lonely. If you’ve moved for work, how did you build a life beyond the office?

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Consider looking for semi-regular activities through an app like Meetup. With our job, it can be hard to commit to something weekly and team based (kickball team, dnd group) because you may have to cancel last minute, but something like yoga classes, run clubs, hiking groups, or art clubs that can still go on without you for a session could be a good alternative. Finding friends is about trying to see the same people regularly (much harder in adult life than school!), so try to find a nice hobby you can fairly regularly commit to. It’s tough, but you can certainly do it :)

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It took me a few years. I started by making friends at work and then I slowly grew my circle by prioritizing certain activities.

Its super hard to meet people but well worth the effort.

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