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The new company I’m at now sent me an email from an email address that was HR@companyName.careers saying I was accepted for the position. They gave me paperwork to fill out and sign to accept the position
I fill out the paperwork and send it back to them and it goes through… then a few days later I go back to the email to say something else and I get this…?
Then today I got a check from the company In the mail to setup my home office, and it’s signed by someone I’ve never met before or heard of…?
What…..
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I overslept and just woke up 🥲 oops
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I think they are overrated. It’s life changing in both good and bad. Enjoy life as two for now long it last.
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Having kids is not a rational decision but nevertheless a good one. No one is ever truly ready or prepared. Go for it! Very few regret it and almost all wish they’d started younger (had my 1st at 35 and that’s considered high risk bc of nothing other than maternal age; I was extremely healthy).
Life will change drastically, and so will you. It’s a lot to consider, but man, having a child is such a monumental life experience, I can’t imagine missing out on that. The change in perspective, priorities, and so much more. We have 4, and I’m 30(M).
Thoroughly, lol. But not Utah Mormon.
Things I expected with kids:
1. Better lawncare. The oldest is finishing up his junior year and I only got one season of him mowing the lawn poorly before he took that enterprise to our neighbors to make good cash. The younger freshman sibling did it twice before saying that manual work wasn't for her.
2. More hands to help cook. There are more mouths eating, but it is amazing how homework can be stretched across prep and cleanup if you are a resourceful teenager.
3. Medical bills. I expected my kids to be dangerous to themselves, but instead they just break things instead of themselves. Lamps are expensive. Healthcare has a deductible and a max payout. They have opted to divest into tangible things instead of themselves. Dont get me wrong, I dont want them hurt, but I also dont want to replace car bumpers when they back into things a week after they get it back from the shop from doing it the first time.
Honestly sounds like you shouldn't and you already made that decision a decade ago.
Huh?
I’m 35 and I was torn until recently. But I’m happy with my decision to not have them at this point and enjoy life to the fullest, travel, live out all my dreams. Having kids in a world where there are discussions happening about how we won’t be a species in 15 years, either due to climate change or AI - kind of made my decision for me. I would feel riddled with guilt bringing a child into this world personally so it’s not a choice that makes sense for me, as much as I would’ve been open about having them in other circumstances.
I think you’re just justifying your narcissism
There are many stories of people who regret having kids, go in with your eyes wide open.
1. Consider the age gap. Do you want to be 70 when your kids are 30?
2. Goodbye to personal time in the beginning
3. You learn your true colors when you bring a child into the world. Will need to learn to compromise.
4. less energy and more stress as you age. Less patience.
we’re 34 with two kids. It’s a blessing but as we’re getting older we decided to stop as we want to start focusing on our mental and physical health. Idk if we could survive a third going through the 0-3 stage all over again
I’m sure they do. I was talking from my POV. at the end of the day, you do you boo.
Same but 32F and single and couldn’t be happier, life will happen when it’s supposed to happen. Enjoy it until then
I recommend spending some time with people who have kids and get a glimpse on their daily life. Don’t choose people who sugarcoat it or show you only the good things. I personally think that the more a person is driven (work, other things) and the more that person has time consuming hobbies, the higher the compromises you need to make when getting kids. So if you think you fall in that category, be aware. Happy to chat more in DM (F, 34, 2 kids)
41-year-old married DINK here. My husband and I had the kids conversation when we were dating, so we knew neither of us wanted them. We are both happy being the “cool uncle and aunt” to our nieces and nephews, have built a happy life around what we love to do together and separately, and don’t mind babysitting (as long as we can give them back). He and have a million reasons each to not have one. If your SO really wants one, do not go into it lightly. It changes everything about your life.
Same. Also starring down the barrel of AI. Like are my kids even going to have a shot at employment. Is it even worth saving for their education. Am I going to have a 40 year old kid living with me when I should be enjoying retirement.
But at the same time, im ready for a greater purpose.
It’s what AI has opened the door to as well, not just what we are seeing today, and what is that going to look like. I’ve always had a certain level of anxiety about where everything was going in terms of the US and of course generally with technology, however certain things I’ve seen recently have me very concerned.
I think the real question you need to answer is if you want to be a parent
I do sometimes. That's the problem.
I didn’t. I’m older than you and I’m absolutely thrilled with my decision.
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Just had my first at 40. Started trying at 33. Just saying.
@FA1 that's what my OBGYN told me when I went last year and told her I planned to stop my BC. I told her I wanted to test to make sure things were okay and working properly and she said no, not after trying for a bit. Which I found odd. Why wait for an issue instead of being proactive I thought to myself.