Woman approaching 40, dated once, LTR once and heartbroken by 32 as I found the man in LTR was cheating on me. Shut my heart completely to ensure never give anyone the power to hurt me. Today I wake up and see years have passed. I have checked off many bucketlist items being single for these years including solo euro trip. But now I feel I can’t go on forever. I just wish I had someone to plant a good morning kiss, like simple things in life. Hard to share these feelings, hence confessing

Has anyone dealt with the death of a parent while working in public accounting? How did it go? My dad is probably going to pass soon and trying to prepare, I guess.

Anyone know any good divorce lawyers in NYC?
Thanks in advance 🙇🏾‍♀️

So recently my SO has been accusing me of being in control of when we are intimate (sex and cuddling). She says that every time she wants to I say no - and whenever I want to - she says yes. So it's by default doing whatever I want when I want. It's a gross exaggeration of what's happening - but does anyone ever deal with something like this? How do you say no to something like that - without your partner thinking you're just looking out for yourself or you're controlling?

I ended my relationship of 6 years about 3 months ago bc he said he might regret not having kids later down the line. we were always on the fence but I’m leaning towards no. It hurts so much having to walk away from an otherwise perfect relationship. Wish this was easier…

Any suggestions for getting kids to do homework? Sped Math 6th grade high need area - I cannot get these kids to turn in hw. Anyone agree with the idea of allowing class time for HW? I am at a loss

Partners with kids and a working spouse, how do you manage? Is it realistic for both people in the relationship to work full time long term? How do you keep marriage going and career progressing?

Friendly reminder that even in a national quarantine, you still shouldn’t text your ex.

What are some myths you all have heard to figure out if you’re having a boy or girl?

I just got my client divorced from a truly horrible person who abused her and her children and she got everything she wanted and the kids are doing great and only one hasn't been successfully discharged from therapy and I'm just so proud of her and feel so lucky that I got to do a little to help her along the way

Hi fishes,
Want some feedback for Employees Assistant Program (EAP) by Capgemini which provides facilities to connect with Therapist.
Actually I am going through some tough times(going through a divorce), want to connect to EAP to discuss my mental health issues.
I had connected once and they say that the conversations are strictly confidential.
Just wanted to know do they really keeps stuff confidential or can they inform my Manager regarding the personal conversations.

This is a question about friendships. Two friends got into a really bad fight this past weekend. They have each asked me to hang out this weekend. What do I do? I don’t want to have to choose sides. One is a friend I’ve known a little longer and has been a good friend and so she would feel betrayed and angry if she knew I were still friends with her now-enemy. The other I’ve known less longer, but we seem more compatible. Advice??

I’ve been married for a while now (5+ years) but feeling completely checked out. My wife has zero conflict resolution skills and can’t control her anxiety, so we constantly bicker if I ever do anything that offends her, and she wants to spend all her time talking about the constantly changing projects she will never start. I can’t ever talk about anything that worries me because she just freaks out. We have kids and she has no ability to earn money so leaving would be impossible financially

Two kids under the age of 8 and I find that I struggle to spend enough quality time with them between their school and activities and my unpredictable job. What do you folks do to be better parents?

It’s a man’s market these days. Men, what tips do you have to give to ladies to increase our likelihood of entering a successful relationship.

Do you think you and your significant other should have similar personalities? My significant other and I are doing long distance and I feel like when I FaceTime with him, I emote more and show interest by asking more questions but from his end, he doesn’t always have a reaction or just nods, and it makes me feel like he’s uninterested. On his end he sees it as he’s comfortable.

One of my best friends growing up just passed away. We lost contact with each other a year or two after graduating high school and I recently came to learn he was was battling cancer the past 5 years and ultimately succumbed to the illness. He hid it well from everyone and led a very private life during it all. To make matters worse, he had just turned 25. Seeing pictures of the condition he was in towards the end of his fight broke my heart. I wish I had known so I could’ve been there for him.

How much time your divorce procedure took?

Going through a terrible breakup. Whenever I wake up, either in the morning or from a nap, I immediately uncontrollably cry because of the immediate thought that he is no longer next to me. The worst part is that we’re living together still (not talking or sleeping in the same room). I can’t even imagine what it will be like when we can finally break our lease. Does this feeling ever end?

Seeing local parents reacting to the public school lottery results in DC, got me super nervous about when it’s my kids turn.

I hate the idea of having so little control.

I’m sure this bowl can help me.
Does anyone remember flat, round water bottles from the early 1990s? Like for school kids? They had some kind of ice pack that you would freeze and it kept your water cool. And then you would squeeze it to drink?
I think they came in neon colors?
All the cool kids had one. Not me though 😏.

Let me know if you are interested in any openings in Plante Moran! We are hiring!! I can give you a referral!

Hi I'm looking for a referral for a Product Manager role at big4 or FAANG. I'm currently working as a Product Manager for tech company supporting NYPD IT Bureau. As a vendor, I design and develop CMS/RMS applications. I have 9 years of experience and would love to connect with someone at those companies to discuss my candidature for a Product management role.

Moving from T2 to McKinsey. How do vacation requests work? I have family and friends getting married this fall in weddings delayed because of covid, but I’ll just have started so wanted to get a sense of how realistic taking vacation this fall would be and how to approach taking it (e.g. mention to HR, staffing). TIA!

Hi Fishes,

I have got offers from SAPIENS and NETCRACKER for the Position of Java developer. Both are giving almost same CTC of 26 LPA.
Kindly help me with your suggestions for the organization to join in terms of better opportunities and growth.

Tech Stack: Java, Springboot, Hibernate, SQL
YOE: 5 years

Given the continuing chip shortage situation- what changes are you making to your embedded code bases to handle hardware changes?

Dear Connections,

I am Milind Shirke from TCS- Mumbai, holding 12+ years of experience in accounts payable, Green Belt certified, knowledge transfer lead, having end to end PTP cycle hands on experience, automation lead, support role in business transformation, business consultant.

Thank you for looking out for opportunity for me in AP domain.

Regards,
Milind Shirke
Mumbai, MH - India

Found a good looking Herman Miller Aeron, used on CL. Worth the 400 bucks? Do not have a proper office chair at the moment

I’ve started to really like the look of thinner drawstring hoodies. Have one from banana republic but looking to get more. Any recommendations on where to look?

Hi all,
I have offer from cerner,should i join or reject.
I am having 11 year exp in .net and healthcare domain and they are offering me 26 lpa. My current org is HCL and salary is 16 lpa.
My major concern is about job security.bcoz i have heard lot about lay off in cerner on the internet.

Hello all,
My workday id is not working. As there is no password reset option on the workday portal i don't know what to do. Any suggestions?

Hi all,
I am tech guy with almost 3yr exp, but I want to switch to a Management role. Going for an MBA is not possible for me. I was wondering about the possibility to switch to a management role within the next 2 years without an MBA. Company/Brand is not a bar for me.
Can somebody please suggest how to do this?

Hello everyone,

Need your help to choose which is a better path to switch from Non IT to Core domain.
Confused on what to learn software testing or AWs devops or front end development etc.

Thanks in advance for your suggestions.

I am currently working mostly in Data Analytics, but I want to transition into Data Engineering. I've applied to a couple Data engineer positions but it seems I don't have the qualifications for them. Should I maybe look for Jr. Data Engineer positions to get experience and try to move up from there? If so anybody know of any Jr. Data Engineer positions available?

You guys think that buying CGC or TLRY now that they’re beaten down are a good Long term play, or do you feel they still have more room to fall?

Rental expenses: experts recommend spending no more than 30% of gross income on housing per month. What’s your: 1) monthly gross, 2) % spent on housing, 3) high/medium/low cost of living city? Trying to get an idea of how y’all investment fish prioritize housing vs savings.

I’ve always wanted a partner who was smart and capable, but the people I’ve met who I’m drawn to on paper are always arrogant and off putting. Is there something wrong with my type of my selection criteria?

I cannot help but slightly look down on people who obsess over Marvel series like Avengers. Twilight series was more entertaining than those.

I miss the Friday evening post. :-(

I know we're supposed to live every day like it's our last, but damn it, after a long, stressful week of work, I'm so happy to just lay on my couch all night with some takeout and a cocktail!

This creepy that I have in the office!! Talking to himself wth!!

My parents got divorced 6 years ago and my dad kinda gave up on life. His American dream was to graduate with an actuary degree (which he did 2 years ago) and find a corporate job but it never happened...He gave up on life to a point that has no food and is behind rent because he doesn't want to get a $15 an hour job or a maintenance/painting job. He doesn't do drugs or alcohol and my wife is going to kill me if she finds out again that I gave him money again.

In an attempt to be healthier, I built a permanent standing desk. Now, once every couple hours my Apple Watch reminds me “it’s time to stand up” and I feel superior to all those chair sitters out there.

Post a pic of your food and I’ll rate 1-10. Friday food party begins here 🍜

I’m in the middle of moving by myself. I’m job hunting, because I lost my last one. My relationship has basically imploded. I sleep a lot on a fucked up schedule because I’m depressed but I can’t afford help, and I only get it when insomnia gives me a break. I’m so done and over all of this. I have so many heavy regrets. Idk how to carry all of this.

I recommended a candidate for hire to a manager that reports directly to me. This person is a perfect match, but wanted the manager to obviously recommend. It has to be a fit. The manager just told me my recommendation is not her top pick. I feel frustrated because as much as we talk about the position, I wonder if we are mot aligned on criteria. What do I do? Do I push more for the person I want or will I cause an issue with the hiring manager? How do I get her to see this person’s value?

Whoever said bumble bbfs was great couldn’t have been more right. It’s weird I’ve l been confident in how I look in the last few years but my personality and likability was put into question but instantly I seem to be receiving the friendship attention I like, 50+ likes by 4am on the first day, signed up at 2am. It’s kind of nice to make brand new friends without having a connection or a class together. Old friends and friends or friends sometimes benchmark you and don’t view the new you

I purchased this body massager only because it was on sale. But now I really like it for pre and post workout massages.

I am usually not into younger guys but this person has been making moves on me a lot. I am just trying to be a responsible adult and date more age appropriate aka people over 30.

Boys in the bowl, help me out here

I need help. I constantly pick at my beard for the last two years. It is creating holes and looks terrible. How can I solve this. I tried a number of things to keep my hands busy. Also how can I grow my beard thicker?

Women… how in the hell do you type in those acrylic nails??? I just got my first set and it’s so damn hard!

Nothing infuriates me more than seeing cops pull people over at the beginning of rush hour on the Beltway. Out of all the times to do traffic stops, 4:15 on one of the nations busiest freeways is not it.

26 M Still virgin. Is this considered strange/awkward?

Anyone else here just chooses not to eat when too lazy to cook? 😅