I’m in a committed relationship and have realized I developed an elementary school level crush on a coworker. How do I kill the crush and maintain the friendship?

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Focus on the annoying things about this crush person. Trust me, they’re there

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I went for it and it was best decision I made … so much happier now than I was.

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I love having harmless crushes! Makes work a little more fun 💕

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Do the deed and get it over with

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Invite them to a triplet

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Great to fantasize about, but I wouldn't go down that route.

However, would be open to toeing the line, just not going to be the one to start.

Shoot your shot, OP. Low key hoping I hear from you soon.

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Homewrecker wouldn't be a good look on me. 🤣🤣

However…..The devil on my shoulder is all “A / S (service line) / L “

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I wouldn’t 🥺😭

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I love that so many of you believe this could be reciprocal. That is definitely NOT the case here.

She/he/they are a beacon of morality, which is definitely the draw here. Also I'm guaranteed once we meet in person, the attraction will fade. 😉

Power dynamics

Unless you’re married, no reason you can’t break up for this person. Test the waters, see if it’s reciprocated. if so, decide if you want to leave your gf/bf.

You have no moral obligation to continue to be with your gf unless you have kids, IMO.

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