I'm currently struggling with my HR team being a bit too empowered. They ignore my direction and ideas and act entitled. I trained them to be independent and forward- thinking but feel the days of respecting experience are long gone. Does anyone else feel this way?

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The video above will be helpful.

But as someone who has worked both as the mentor, the manager, and the employee - I would strongly suggest taking the words “empowered”, “ignoring direction”, “acting entitled”, etc and do the following as a writing assignment:
1) what is your definition of these words
2) give 3 examples of each of these words
3) for each example - write 2 different scenarios that would make you feel respected for your experience
4) for number 2 and 3 write out the person interacted with you that way perception
4) read crucial conversations
5) decide if you need to have a conversation about a scenario.


Assuming you are the group manager, this could be a great group exercise to find out how folks perceive other folks and how folks can work together better in the future.

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Honestly, why do you feel like them being empowered is a bad thing? Are they not hitting their goal?
There is more than one way to get from A to B. Do they have to get to B exactly your way? If they can find a better way to get to the desired result is that acceptable ? My experience with this scenario was a manager that was not flexible. Unless it was exactly her way her template etc it was wrong… yet the templates I was using were from Harvard business school… they were both right but, she wanted it exactly “her way”. Dk if this is a similar situation but, wanted to give you ideas to think about.

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Do they report to you?

Yes. I just feel at times they don't respect experience nor my input.

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