What’s your best advice for dealing with an insufferable manager? I’m being gaslit and micromanaged to wit’s end.

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Look for another job. Seriously. They won’t change and HR won’t help. I spent a couple of years in that situation and it’s awful. Not worth sacrificing your mental (and physical) health.

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Well, don’t do what I did. After months of dealing with gaslighting, bullying and unconstructive criticism, I reported boss to HR. I was let go the next day 🙃 start looking for a new job.

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Leave. If HR does talk to them, they’ll change their tune for a week before returning to their old habits—or worse.

It’s best to watch them crash and burn from your new job.

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Leave.

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Leave. I told HR and my boss made up even worse stories and they tried to paint that I was out of control and needed EAP. They laid me off a month later. She got promoted the same month and is still there.

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HR only protects the employer and it’s infuriating

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You can never change another person. And “reporting” your manager never works; you are the one who looks bad. However, I have witnessed situations where people assume the gaslighting and micromanaging is coming from a certain manager when in fact it originates above them.

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You meet power with power. Or quit!

My last job before Huge was like this. Nothing worked. It was a known issue and just ignored. It made me into someone at work that I hated.

I'm with everyone who says leaving may be your option, but that's easier said than done. I've actually switched managers at Huge (not for your reasosns), so it can be done -- especially as we're going through all these changes. Try going to your leadership with a career case for why a different manager would be a better fit and maybe have someone in mind. I'd wager that they'll entertain you.

If not, at least know I'm rooting for you and hope you find something / someone you love.

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