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I have accepted Infosys Offer Letter . If I am not joining Infy and joins another company, then is there anything like Infosys remembers it and will not consider in its Future Opportunities saying "You previously Didnt join our Organisation after accepting Offer Letter , So we are not considering your profile ahead " (Something like blacklist).
Has anybody accepted Infy Offer Letter and Have not joined ...and later got another Offer from Infy after say 6 months or 1 year and then Joined Infy ?
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Very aptly said.!!
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Is Housekeeping 1 a broken bot? What in the world?
She doesn’t understand what’s going on. Based on her responses, she seems to think the company arranged the marriage and is forcing it.
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These threads blow my mind
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Adding in Housekeeper 1’s random posts throughout makes this extra fascinating! 😂
Coming from a family with several arranged marriages. Do you think it’s possible she can show her parents that she’s spending time with or getting to know you so that they get off her back and don’t put her in another situation? While she may genuinely not want to hurt you, she may also be playing delaying tactics on her side. I would just go in with eyes wide open.
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Slow rolling FTW.
Depends what you want out of life. If you want a family life and children, time to move on.
I’ve met several couples throughout my career that where courtship was arranged… it’s surprising that this is still happening in 2026… either way, one of the things I have learned, and it parallels amongst all of them, is that they grew to love each other… after the courtship, after the wedding, after the kids…
So the fact that you’ve only been talking for 2 months and it’s arranged in the traditional sense, you’re just getting up to bat, metaphorically.
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Funny. I know of an arranged marriage where the man was unfaithful to his wife (how do I know? Because he hit on me relentlessly when I was 17 and he was 36). I later learned that he beat his wife regularly. When his wife died, he raped his daughter repeatedly, until his son murdered him.
No, they don't always "grow to love each other." It's a horrific, misogynistic practice.
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There’s no path to marriage here. Walk away.
I'm not from an arranged marriage culture so I can't speak to that part, but I've had plenty of experience with "she says she just wants to be friends but...." and IMO the only way through is to take her at her word and only hang out more if you genuinely are okay with an outcome where you actually end up friends and nothing more.
If she eventually changes her mind and you are still interested, cool. It's totally possible she's just not comfortable with getting serious pretty quickly and wants a slower pace of getting to know each other without expectations. Nonetheless, if you go in assuming/hoping that will happen, you're likely to be too intense, which will mess up the possibility of friendship, let alone anything more. And then if it doesn't happen you might be resentful.
It's fine if you don't want to just be friends! You can tell her "I appreciate that, but since you don't see a marriage future for us I want to focus my time and energy on getting to know people where that's a possibility."
It's also possible she doesn't even want to be friends but is trying to let you down gently because she is afraid of hurting, disappointing or angering you (or, I guess, the people who fixed you up?) But if so, that will become clear pretty quickly in my experience.
How long have you been married?
For one I can pass a drug test so I'm not worried about anything
Been talking for 2 months.
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I think you are confused. But entertaining!
This is tough. I’ve also seen so many arranged marriages work out beautifully, but both people were trying to make it work and discussed their goals and worked at them together. Have a discussion about your long term views and goals and sees the future in the same way. But it also seems like this person is already not on board, and you can’t make somebody want the same future as you. If it were me, I’d cut it off and move on to the next one. Sounds like she’s not the one.
You can grow a backbone or marry this woman - but you can't do both.