Is anyone else here a recovering workaholic? I’ve been working on my workaholism in therapy for 2+ years and have made great strides. After my kids were born I left private practice doing M&A to go in house at a cushy corporate job working 9-5. It’s so much better for WLB but I sometimes have to remind myself that I don’t need to work late anymore and set the boundary with myself. Even still I’ll feel guilty for logging off at 5. Can anyone relate?

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100%. It is exactly who I used to be also until I stumbled across another way. I now run my own online business a few hours a day and have the freedom to be able to be there for my children or do what I like really. I decide my path not some boss who doesn't appreciate the hours I used to put in.

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I have this problem. I currently manage my own schedule and work very long hours.

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I am having just the opposite problem. I have been blessed with a well-paying role that doesn't require 40 hours most weeks, which leaves me with a whole lot of time mentally chained to my desk, feeling like the other shoe will dop any day now. Not always, but certainly more often than I would like.

I am incredibly grateful for having the flexibility to pick up our kid from school and take him to extracurricular activities to the point that I would be super hesitant to accept any role that would detract from that, though maybe that scale of WLB could shift slightly towards the W. Though I don't think any amount of compensation could get me to dive back into 60-hour weeks.

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I had challenges addressing this until I had an unexpected medical issue and was hospitalised for a week. That — and the discovery I had a rare hereditary condition — made me reevaluate my focus. Since then, I’m no longer a workaholic. I learned the value of priorities and time, as well as the realisation that ‘no’ is a complete sentence.

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I sure can. It took me a long time to get comfortable silencing my notifications right at 5 PM and not checking my email after hours. Part of that was the byproduct of working at a really toxic, chaotic agency where last minute after hour requests were the norm. Once I got away from there to a more organized, professional agency, that pressure to always be on started to fade away. I still spend too much of my free time thinking about work, but I'm nowhere near as bad as I was 10 years ago.

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I don’t know how well I’m recovering, but I do my very best to protect my team from the slippery slope that I slid down. They understand that my off-hours pings are to be ignored and are intended to be asynchronous unless I call them (I’m in tech and we don’t have separate on-call teams). I do try be judicious in the work that I pick up at night and on weekends and have gotten good at not doing everything, delegating or ignoring.

Congrats. But how would you advise an associate to get to that point because it’s a lot harder for us to find any balance and not be continuously piled on.

I couldn’t do it as an associate which is why I went in house.

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