Is anyone else part of the “sandwich generation”—caring for both aging parents and your own family/kids—while also trying to juggle a demanding job? How are you managing the emotional and logistical load? Some days it feels nearly impossible to be fully present for everyone (including work), and I’d love to hear how others are navigating this stage of life.

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Yes. As usual, GenX gets screwed.

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Yes, yes and YES. I struggle everyday thinking about this and I feel like it’s not talked about enough

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I actually just filed for family leave through FMLA. It was just nearly impossible to work. I'm also taking advantage of our EAP (Employee Assistance Program) to get some counseling. I'm one of those that says "I can deal with it" but then my mind doesn't ever shut down. It's tough.

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Yes. My mom is actively dying and I have small kids and I’m supposed to act like work is my #1.

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I’m sorry about your mom. My mom is 89 and the dementia is creeping in.

Having gone through this myself and now on the other side (parents dead/kids grown) I can speak with some authority.
Like every impossible period in your life (ex: when you were a sleep deprived new parent), keep in mind that this is temporary. Get as much help as you can. There are resources available for your parents, kids and you through EAP, Medicare visiting nurse, clubs for seniors that include transportation, friends who can watch your kids from time to time, and even using meal kits or take-out instead of cooking from scratch. Your employer will support you if you explain the situation and ask for their understanding. By the same token, gather your spouse and kids to have a serious talk about what’s going on. Ask them what they can do to help (rather than telling them what to do). You will be surprised how even young kids can pitch in. It’s actually a good lesson for them. And by all means join a support group or see a therapist.
Hang in there and remember, it’s temporary. Kids grow up. Parents die. And then it’s your turn.

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Simple solution.... don't have kids! Save your money, retire early and live a healthy adventurous life!

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Read the room producer 1

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This isn’t unique to any generational cohort it’s a lifecycle issue for most people.

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@D1, hope this helps: https://www.marketplace.org/story/2025/01/14/the-number-of-sandwich-generation-caregivers-is-growing

There should be a support group for this.

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“Navigating” this stage of life? By navigating, you mean holding on to a piece of the wreckage and floating aimlessly in the vast ocean just hoping I don’t drown or get eaten by a shark?

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Precisely. How are you doing it?

Mmmmmm sandwich

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Every time you take a bite, you shed a tear and lose an hour of sleep.

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🙋🏻‍♂️ It ain’t easy!

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