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my mom is pretty much a single-issue voter. one that has driven a wedge between us for decades. and it’s not the only political divide either. both my parents think most of my views are variously an impossible fantasy and/or to our detriment. and i think their choice to vote for stasis and/or their own protection over the uplifting of others is ethically bankrupt. and i have told them this. needless to say, they voted for trump.
we still talk every day. we still love each other. but for like a solid year and a half, things reached a state that you could guarantee we’d come to an argument no less than 3 times a week and hang up angry. maybe a couple other days we would compare views and inform each other of whatever interestingly unique spins were being placed on current events by the left vs the right — which may not have changed anyone’s core values but helped us understand each other. sometimes we could just talk about life without the weight of the world.
a few weeks ago we simply made the decision not to talk about politics anymore. it was hard at first. she would comment that i sound depressed and i couldn’t talk about the reasons without breaking the rules. or i would mention something i thought she’d just find amusing (e.g. blatantly unverifiable propaganda that social media pushed my way because it would confirm my biases even though i could see it was as much bullshit as what she hears on fox news) and things would fall apart again.
but no matter how far things go wrong, no matter how many times i want to point to events of the day and say “remember when i told you so and you said he was just joking?” i’ve concluded it’s more important to keep my mom’s love for me in my life than to stand on a moral high ground.
not everyone has a relationship that can make this work. it’s just as easy to find yourself dealing with narcissist parents who think only of themselves and will find ways to punish even an adult child for thinking differently about the world than they do. my dad grew up with a pair of those. but it sounds like she cares about you, doesn’t want to lose you. and like you care about her too. so i would encourage you to find a way to maintain a relationship despite your different perspectives. even (especially?) if it means setting up ground rules on conversation topics.
The candidate options were terrible, try to remember that most people are relatively centrist and don’t align with most views of whoever they end up voting for
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Whatever most people think in this instance doesn't matter. What your immediate family thinks is what matters. The fact that most people voted for Trump is irrelevant to my relationship with my sister who thinks trump is the incarnation of Jesus.
I would not interact with my family if they were MAGA people, and I wouldn’t regret it at all. This is so far beyond politics at this point. If you see the incompetence, worship of ignorance, fearmongering-hatred of minorities, bullying, disdain for rule of law, cruelty to the weak, all wrapped in churlish behavior and nasty-drunk-at-a-bar manners we wouldn’t accept from 5th Graders - and after seeing all that you say “that’s my guy and that’s my movement” - you are not welcome in my life. Hard stop. I’m African American so fortunately my family is hardcore anti-MAGA, but I’ve cut several friends out of my life over the last decade as this toxic movement rose.
I’m sorry you’re going through this but there are more important things in life than blood family. Your dignity, your personal happiness, your human rights, and your values are among them. As an LGBT person (or frankly anything other than a Christian white person, preferably in a small town) MAGA is deeply, foundationally hostile to all of those things.
Yes, I can relate. I avoid politics with my family and focus on shared interests instead. Looking back, I wouldn’t want Trump to destroy meaningful relationships with my family and friends on top of everything else. Politics divides people, which is why they were created. You can decide how much importance you give it in your life. However, the shaming and manipulation is another topic and something best addressed with family directly or through therapy. If the relationship is toxic politics aside, then it may be best to move on and focus on all that makes you happy.
What if you flipped the scenario and had family that wouldn’t speak to you based on who you are? Tolerance runs both ways.
have ti disagree with this. it’s about tolerance and recognizing OPs worth as a human. There are no “both sides” here.
right choice. it sucks but then voting for them trump sucks more
If you can put aside the differences, and they can as well, that demonstrates care for each other as well as emotional maturity. If you can’t, that basically defines the relationship. Trump won’t be here in a few years. Is there going to be some other issue that keeps you from speaking for eight months?
You folks are so young. Do you have anything idea how many “movements” have come and gone over the last 40 years??? Do you choose to forget that Obama left office about nine years ago???
You in a cycle of listening to people that don’t know what they’re talking about. Have you even considered the fact that there will be a backlash to the chaos of trumps term, and a good Democratic candidate absolutely can win in 2028???
Y’all are really frustrating and it’s the thinking that makes people complain and not DO SOMETHING. I supported candidates against trump from both parties with my money and volunteer time. So are you ready to make change or are you giving up because of a trump “movement”.
I understand what you are feeling, but I would like to give yourself another option. I love you but not your choices, meaning I love my sister, but she voted for TRUMP, if I am right, she will feel neglect and frustration over her candidate but knows that her brother loves her regardless