I’ve been the only woman on my deal team for months now. No one’s overtly hostile, but the micro stuff adds up like getting interrupted in meetings, double-checked on things I’ve already confirmed, or having my points repeated by a guy and suddenly they “land.” I’m good at what I do, but it’s exhausting having to prove it over and over. I’m not looking for sympathy, I just want to know: does it ever get better? Or do you just get better at swallowing it?

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This. Please keep going. One day there will be another woman in the room, and she’ll be so grateful to see you.

In my opinion, it gets better with the micro items you identified, but it gets worse in other respects. For instance, my biggest struggle now is that as a woman in a leadership role, I often face a double standard where I am expected to be warm, nurturing, and approachable. When I enforce expectations or provide critical feedback—especially in a direct manner—I may be perceived as "difficult," "harsh," or "unreasonable," whereas a male counterpart would be seen as assertive, strong, or simply doing his job.

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