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Breathe! You’re not alone! I remember crying in my car on the way home. I really had to ask myself “why” i was crying. For me it wasn’t the challenging work or the difficult conversations. It was the fact that those “difficult conversations” didn’t align with my vision of HR. (Essentially my manager). I love HR and employee relations.. but the way the company wanted me to handle situations did not align with my values. The employee culture always seemed to be on fire at that company and at the same time no one trusted each other to make the process better. Everyone just wanted to complain or blame. The little things really started to make me disengage at that place. Then I found a different job still in HR. But this time opinions mattered and action was taken when needed vs just constant finger pointing. Just saying that sometimes it’s not the job but the company culture. It’s ok to cry, but ask yourself why. Was it just a tough day or are you ignoring the bigger problem.
That hits hard. Sometimes it really is not the tough conversations, it is the culture behind them. I need to ask myself if it is just a bad day or if the company is draining me long-term.
No, I definitely get that, you're totally right. It can be a tough job and it almost feels like we're a therapist sometimes, but without the training that therapists get in order to manage their own mental health. I think retail therapy helps me cope, but that's probably not healthy 😆
That’s so true—we take on the role of therapist without the training. And yep, retail therapy has been my go-to too, even though my wallet hates it.
I'm SO sorry. I have been there before. HR really is like the emotional center of the company, and sometimes you can hit really hard. If you're someone who absorbs emotions easily, this is probably not your first time dealing with it. I would take inventory on how often you feel like this and evaluate whether or not it's something on your team or something internally that you can work on. I've found therapy to be extremely helpful to sort through this kind of thing. Hope you feel better soon!
Therapy is something I have considered because it is hard to separate my own emotions from everyone else’s. HR really does soak up all the hidden weight.
Yep, been there. It gets better with time. At least for me it did. Plus, a job that I absolutely love.
Good to know it can get better. Right now it feels heavy, but hearing it lightened for you gives me some hope.
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I am really sorry you feel like that, I’ve been in your shoes before and it’s not a nice feeling at all and it’s really sad. I agree with a comment above to see if this is something you can work with your team on if you know someone you can confide in in the office. I hope you work it out and feel a lot better soon😊
Appreciate that. It helps knowing others have been through it too. Having someone safe to confide in at work is probably the step I have been avoiding.