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I am following professor Aswath Damodaran's blog since long. Professor Damodaran teach Corporate Finance and Valuation and is well known valuation guru. Here's the link to his blog -
Musings on Markets (aswathdamodaran.blogspot.com)
His writing and videos have been great source of knowledge for me and hence sharing with this group.
Any public accounting firms in Albuquerque?
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Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Jokes aside, no one can really know other than you, but i'd be so so wary if i were you. No matter the reason, i find that if someone has crossed the cheating line before, they are likely to justify crossing it again.
I agree with this.
One other thing I would look at is how does his friend group view cheating. I have a few different friend groups, and in one of them the guys think it's okay to cheat as long as they're discreet - and the women generally agree with this. It's not something that they've ever explicitly discussed, but it's the general vibe. The women all seem to know what they're marrying into.
No way I would waste my time! Shxt falls off the rails really quick if you get into the “I can change him” mindset, so save yourself now. You deserve to be with someone where you’ll never have to question their loyalty (or have to ask strangers on the internet lol 🙂)
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Do not make this mistake and waste your time. He will always have the tendency and you’ll be mad at yourself for trusting him. Take it from someone who helped a friend through this exact same situation but she wasted years
Is he able to explain in a deep, profound and sincere way why he cheated previously and why he would never do so again? Has he gone through a life-changing experience or set of experiences where it would make logical sense that he may have transformed and/or matured? Cheating often reflects some sort of character deficiencies, and are there other areas of his life where he has also addressed his character and morals where again it would all make logical sense for why he won't ever cheat again? Just going to therapy isn't enough by the way, he needs to have had true transformation and therapy where he doesn't just recite what you're supposed to recite or say…
Or does he blame his exes for why he cheated or just shrug it off as something he used to do?
Also, more importantly, along with any deep transformation or explanation are his actions aligned? For example, is he a man of integrity who lives and acts with the same character and values when someone's watching as he does when no one is watching at all?
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How long ago? My husband cheat if his hs/college gf. We met like 7 years later and it really didn’t worry me at all. He was a very different person back then.
If it was two gf’s recently I’d want to know what made our relationship different
Yeah I tend to agree with this. Frankly I was the not loyal counterpart in my 20s (woman here), and I grew out of it when I was ready to settle down and build a life with someone. Was very much a maturity thing, for me anyway.
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The difference between a boy and a man is discipline.